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Final ivf appointment

Went for my last ivf appointment even though I knew they would say we wouldn't qualify for any more treatment I was quite stunned to discover that my amh level has gone down from 4.8 to 1.6!!! It was 4.8 but that was in 2014 when initial tests were done. So scary how quickly the level can drop!! At least it made our mind up that we need to go forward with adoption. The only thing he suggested was donor eggs but that's not for us. So this spells the end of over 3 years waiting for ivf in total. Even though we are devastated we will never have our baby I am relieved that we can move on. Good luck girls hope you all get your bfpsxx

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I am so sorry to hear your level drop-mine was the same from 6.4 to 3.1 in less than 2 years. But it is good that u have a plan.im in bed already but I'll pm u the details of the adoption people that were at the fertility show on Saturday! when I'm up & about tomoro. Xxx

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Thanks that would be great. I never imagined it could drop that quickly. Defo think there should be more awareness about fertility over age of 35 I never imagined it could happen to me as have friends who've had babies well into their 40s!!xx

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My amh dropped from 24 to 15 in 7 months so who knows what it is now. First time they based the drug doses on an old blood test so I didn't respond. I wish I had realised all of this when I was a bit younger.

Good luck with the adoption stuff. X

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No, please, don't give up!!! There are still options and chances for you to get pregnant, I have been through 3 ivf and we didn’t give up, we went for 4th attempt and voila I am pregnant. not that i wanted to mention it here, but maybe it is only because it has not been too long after the appt so you feel like that, because you should not give up. you definitely should have some rest though!

PS amh level can be low but you have to also have your us picture, what did your gyno said?

I am really sorry!! I would really want to give you a hug! Honey, everything will be okay.

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Thanks that's great that you are finally pregnant. Congratulations. For us ivf is not the right route anymore. Emotionally and financially its too much. We re both excited about adoption so don't worry I'll be fine xx

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Wow that is a bit of a shock, didnt think it would drop that fast either! I thought they would have checked the AMH before a new cycle and this makes you wonder why they dont check it really! All the best katya38 ! You are doing a wonderful thing!!xx

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Well I know would have liked to have known this before rather than being told 3 months after.

Keep in touch xxx

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Yes I know, bit of a kick in the teeth really! Its gone me thinking about mine! Im just started my buserelin yesterday and had a scratch done the day before that for round 2 so hoping for a better outcome, cant be much worse then last that's for sure! Ha ha ha Yes, keep us posted on how you get on too! Our friends were/are foster carers and adopted a set of twins a few years ago and they are getting on great, we would never rule this out too!xx

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Good luck with your cycle really hope it works out for you. Adoption has always been an option for me anyway. I feel much happier not having ivf hanging over me.xx

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I just want to say that's such a brave decision. IVF is incredibly hard and a huge emotional rollercoaster which I think is sometimes very hard to get off! We're currently part-way through our second cycle but regardless of the outcome, that will be it for us on IVF.

Adoption is a wonderful thing to do and I wish you all the luck in the world for the next step of your journey to becoming a parent.

Exx

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Aw thank you so much. I didn't realise how very tough it would be. I just want to be a parent now. Would you consider adoption? Really hope this cycle is successful for you xx

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Thanks hun! Yup I totally agree with you - one just imagines that IVF is some backup plan, never dreaming you'll need it. I had no idea what it was going to be like!

We would definitely consider adoption. In fact it was quite close to being our first choice.

We'll be parents in the end!

Lots of luck.

xx

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I am sorry to hear the sad news. However you have made a decision which is best for you. The whole ivf journey is not easy and I know things will work out for you in the end. Wishing you all the luck in the world x

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Thank you so much xx

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There should defo be more awareness about fertility, wish I had known. Good Luck on your journey to adoption xxx

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Oh definitely I always knew that your fertility dips after 35 but never imagined it would happen to me. Wish I'd got my levels tested at the age of 30. What's for you won't go by you. I believe this is my path now xx

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It's great I wish you every success. We are doing DE after xmas x

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Good luck hope you are successful xx

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Adoption is a truly wonderful gift for the child/children and the parents. Some dear friends of mine adopted twin girls when they were approx 18 months old, after 10 years TTC / IVF / MCs and now, approaching their 9th birthdays it would be hard to find a more wonderful happy family. Wish you all the best in your adoption plans. It's certainly something we would consider if our own biological baby journey ends xx

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