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Am I strong enough?

Ok, so you'll know from my first post that I'm waiting on a consultation date to get a start date for IVF - we go next week on 12th October, which is great news.

I'm really worried about the emotional side of the process. I lost my Dad in October last year, I've struggled massively and haven't really come to terms with it yet.

I worry that the mix of grief and sadness with the IVF process could be a huge mental and physical strain, but then it could be our only chance to have a baby so I have to go with it.

Has anybody else experienced anything similar?

I don't really know who else to speak to so thanks for listening xx

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Morning gorgeous! Not even going lie, Accupuncture! Nothing else, believe me x good luck for next week...🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊


Great news about your appointment next week. You will be feeling all sort of mixed emotions and even more so given your loss.. I am so sorry. There is no denying this process is emotionally and physically draining but with your partner by your side remember you are not doing this alone. Good luck with everything xxx


sweetheart you are stronger than you think you are.

I am sure your Dad would be so proud of you and would want you have what makes you happy. It is an emotional roller coaster but am sure you will meet others along the way and sharing getting support when needed. Counselling does help and acupuncture too.

Best wishes dear xxx



I am also waiting on my first appt which is next monday 10th October but this is for our initial appt with the consultant so I think you may well be ahead of us appt wise. Like everyone else has said we are all stronger than we think & if you feel emotional and need to let it out then do, no one will judge you and you'll feel massively better 😊 I know my situation isn't the same as yours but we are starting our ivf journey as I have been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer this year & my surgery will involve removal of my uterus so if we want children that I can carry this is the time we have to do it so it's all very scary and new. Fingers crossed all goes well for you x


Hi Crodile80. Just wanted to wish you well with it all. I'm sure your clinic will look after you, plus the girls on this site will keep you going. If you're really struggling with the loss of your dead Dad, then perhaps ask your GP if you can be referred for some grief counselling to help. Thinking of you. Diane


Thank you all so much for the support x


Wishing you all the best, your Dad will be supporting you every step of the way X


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