Sadly we just found out we have a blighted ovum. We had a low beta but it was rising so that gave us hope. They ruled out suspected ectopic which gave us hope and then saw a sac a week ago which gave us more hope but today there was nothing inside so it's the end of the road for us. Not sure what we'll do next.
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So sorry to read this, take care of yourselves xx
Thanks LHow81 xxxx
Maria-Louisa so sorry to hear this xxx take care of yourselves hun xxx
Thanks for your message Dreams1982 xxx
Oh babez am so so sorry to hear this,i feel were ur coming from am just under 7 wks and been told my little ones to close to my cervix so i will inevitable have a miscarriage but for some reason there still making me wait till thur to scan me to check for heartbeat even when they said its inevitable i will miscarry 😢 am here if u need any1 to talk to i no what ur going through xx
I'm so sorry for you too emzlou25 😔 It's totally awful, I'd never heard of the position being an issue, hopefully once you've taken time to grieve you find strength to try again xxx
Thank you maria-louisa i never new position was a issue either untill my last scan 😢 and i will defo try again 100% once it dont hurt so much , i also pray for u and ur other half to find the strenght to get through the greving ur both going through am here for u hunnie xxx
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Hi Maria,
I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I totally understand how you feel having been through the same myself 2 years ago. Fortunately my 2nd BFP resulted in the birth of my little princess. Take care of yourself
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That's nice to hear jhza700! I just don't know if im fooling myself now, after transferring a total of 6 embryos maybe it's time to move on xxx
Oh so sorry to hear this Maria-Louisa, it's devastating when you've had such hope and elation previously 😔 Hope you'll be ok, huge hugs xxx
Thanks Georgine78 xxx
I meant Georgina!
I'm so sorry to read this Maria-Louisa. So unfair, giving you that hope and it being taken away. Thinking of you, much love x x x
Thanks Mommabear, I know you've been through a distressing time too, how are you? X
Hi Maria - I'm doing ok thanks. Would have been 12 weeks today. I've seen two rainbows already... I don't know if I believe in signs but I'm taking them as a reminder to stay hopeful. How are you feeling my love? I know that's a silly question but know I'm thinking of you x x x
Thanks my lovely, it's so great to have other women who understand cheering you on or sending a virtual hug 😘 It's impossible not to think of those milestones it's all so incredibly unfair. I like that you take comfort in the rainbows, they should definitely give you hope and comfort because everything will work out, we have to believe that. Had a few tears today of course and just so fed up of being in this limbo, so depressing. We've got my sister in law and their 5 year old son coming to stay next week for 10 days and I'm worried it will make me feel worse but maybe it will be a distraction. I just don't want to be around kids in kids places and yet you still want to participate in life and not lose friendships. How do you cope with friends and babies? X
Company will be really hard but it will be a distraction, just make sure you take time for yourself lovely, don't be afraid to say no if you don't want to go somewhere with them and need time alone. You have to look after yourself at the minute. It's difficult with other people's children. I'm close with my closest friends children and my nieces/nephew. I try to take comfort in them, I enjoy spending time with them.
A week after we found out there was no heartbeat I was godmother at a christening. It was a hard day but I love my godson and my friend too much to stay home and she's been such a huge support through all of this. The vicar was talking about children being protected in the womb and being a precious gift. I had to choke back the tears and remember that the day wasn't about me. It's funny because when we got home afterwards we went into what was going to be the nursery. Out the window were two huge rainbows. That's when I decided they were our reminders to be hopeful. Each day does get easier, I promise it does. You never forget but you stop thinking about it every second of the day. It still hurts but when you lose something you love that much it's supposed to hurt and I'm comfortable with that.
I hope you find some peace soon my love but take as long as you need, if you ever need to talk please send me a message x x x
So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xx
So sorry to hear this. I had this experience last summer and it is devastating after the happiness of a BFP. But on the positive side, it does show that your body responded in the right way and next time hopefully you will have more luck. (My sister told me this when it happened to me) I had around 3 more unsuccessful transfers and this last time (our last frostie) has resulted in pregnancy. I'm now 13 weeks and so far everything is ok. Obviously I'm on tenterhooks and decided to get an extra scan at 14 weeks privately to put my mind at rest, but there is hope.
Thanks for your hopeful story, do you mind me asking how many embryos you transferred in total? We've transferred 8 and only this one implanted. Not sure if it's time to move on to donor eggs... Good luck with your pregnancy xxx
Hi Maria-Louisa,
I had a total of I think 10 embies from 2 egg collection. Initially they were 3 day transfers but then we decided to unfreeze and grow to 5 day blasts which reduced the number. We did a total of 1 fresh, 2 x 1 3dt (one resulted in blighted ovum miscarriage), maybe 1 more 3 dt, then 3 attempts at 2 x 5 dt. I definitely think it was better to grow them to 5 days and tbh wish we had done that in the first place as wouldn't have wasted so much time on embies that probably wouldn't have worked out.
I'm 41.5 now so I'm unlikely to try again for another child and just praying that this little boy will make the distance.
If my husband was amenable to donor eggs I might consider it, but as he's not that won't be an option for me. It's impossible to say whether you would have more luck with the next cycle, but I had decided that if the last transfer was unsuccessful I would probably do one more cycle since I did find a statistic that said on the 3rd cycle there is a rise in success rates (after a dip on the 2nd cycle). That said, I asked the doctor which egg collection batch the successful one came from and it turns out it came from the first one. So none of our second batch were successful - probably should have listened to the doctors and not stockpiled embryos that cost us huge amounts of money and put the time on the clock back. But wow, isn't hind sight a wonderful thing?!
Thanks for your reply Rose. If I've understood, a total of 10 embies were transferred and failed and the furthest you got was a blighted ovum until now? Wow, very similar to me. It's so hard to keep going isn't it? I can't quite remember what's involved in FETs but I recall it's a lot easier. We have 1 day 5 and 2 day 6 I think we should put back before moving on. I'm so delighted that this one has turned into a positive for you!!! Lots of good luck to you, it's definitely your turn xxxx
Thanks Maria-Louisa! Yes, I must say I had some breaks in between due to holidays, Dr missing the ovulation time, and me just feeling like I needed one - so do go ahead and have a break. Sounds like you still have some good ones to try so go for that! I don't know if it made a difference, but before the last transfer I was taking Chinese red date soup every day and Coq10 and evening primrose oil as directed by my nutrionalist/Chinese doc and I also started doing Circle and Bloom meditations. They have one specific for IVF so I used it before and after transfer and it definitely made the process a great deal calmer for me, if nothing else!
Good luck and pray for a rainbow baby for you soon xx
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