Is it over...?

[Becky179]

Morning ladies.

Im 10DPET. And still have 4 days until my OTD. So I woke up this morning and had some blood when I went to the toilet. It is my due date for my Period. So I'm assuming that's what is is 😢😢😢 I have been having period type pains too for the last few days. Has this happened to anyone with a happy outcome? I just feel so sad & deflated.

[Hidden]

Hey

This is what happened in my first cycle. It's so disappointing. But, a friend had a bleed and has just given birth to twins a week ago. Until you test nothing is certain hon. Hoping you're OK 🙏

[Becky179 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much. I'm thinking the worst, we can't help ourselves can we! Xx

[Aimaim77]

Don't give up hope yet this could be just embryo inbedding , I had a tiny bit of blood also around 10dp5dt and I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant xxxx

[Becky179]

I'm still bleeding. So it looks like my period has arrived 😢😢😢

[Liz22]

Really hope everything's ok, i know how awful it can be. Is it fresh blood? Big hugs to you xx

[Becky179 in reply to Liz22]

Ah thank you, yeah it's fresh unfortunately 😢

[isitonlyadream]

Hi becky

This happened to me. Had a fresh transfer on the 16th may and we were due to test on the 26th but on the 25th I started bleeding. We still had to go to the clinic on the 26th for the blood test which was 0 hpt.

I knew before we went that it hadn't worked but they told us that some women do bleed and they don't know why. They said it's not over until results are back which gave us a tiny flicker of hope but it was not to be.

So it's not over until test day even though you are bleeding.

It's hard to stay positive but you have to try, you may be one of the ladies who just bleeds.

Good luck, holly xx

[Becky179 in reply to isitonlyadream]

Thanks Holly, it funny how we kind of know in ourselves isn't it. I think if it wad a little blood i wouldn't be so pessimistic but it Deffo seems like a period as I've got all the "womb ache" that goes with it. I do have a flicker of hope but only a mini one!

This was our only shot at it as we are self funded and don't have another £6000 unfortunately. Thank you for your kind words xxx

[isitonlyadream in reply to Becky179]

Hi becky

I know, even as the nurses were saying it I knew that it was over, I'm just sorry that they did say it as I could see the sheer hope in my husbands eyes and wish I could've saved him from the disappointment.

I also know re finances, we had our first cycle, long protocol, 5 eggs collected, only 3 were good, 3 fertilised and one transferred and one frozen. We too have self funded and the frozen cycle, although cheaper, will have to go on credit cards. I cannot see how we will pay for another full cycle either but I just cannot, or am not ready, to give up just yet.

Did you get any embryos to freeze?

xx

[Becky179 in reply to isitonlyadream]

We unfortunately didn't manage to get any for freezing. So we will have to start over... its just the thought of it all again 😢

[isitonlyadream]

I know it's gut wrenching having to think about starting again but honestly planning going forward is the only thing that's kept me sane these last few weeks.

We find the strength to go forward... You will too xx

[Becky179 in reply to isitonlyadream]

Thanks hon. Yeah we're always ok. Xx