Feeling bad

My husband gave me the good news that my sister in law is pregnant.

They hadn't been trying it just happened.

I feel so angry and upset, but then I know that's really selfish too. Just seems so unfair, they didn't want a child and we're desperate.

Anyone else felt like this and how did you deal with it? I just cry every time I think about it! 😡

[Lucyloo81]

Don't feel bad it's natural to feel like that the exact thing happened to me too.....then the other sister-in-law fell pregnant too. Xxx

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Both of them? That is hard.

Spoke to her tonight so now I feel really bad for reacting how I did 🙈

[MommaBear16]

Hi there. It's completely natural to feel this way. We don't mean to, it's just we want something they have so badly. I'm always happy when I hear the news for other people and I get so much joy from spending time with their children but it is hard. I have always told myself that someone having a baby is not them taking a baby from me. The two entities are completely separate. It's worse when you know that they weren't trying/didn't want a baby or haven't been together long. Just try to keep your distance for a while if you can and stay focused on your own goals. I hope you feel better soon x x x

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Good advice, thank you ❤️

[Nic87]

Same happened to me, and she was the most unmaternal woman I've ever met, wouldn't go near a baby! But just had to grin and be happy for them. I always feel bad for feeling like this but I think it's only natural.x

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Just makes you angry eh

Life definitely challenges us

Thank you xx

[pm27]

Pregnancy announcements are really hard, especially if it "just happened". I feel happy for others but so sad for myself and hubby. Feeling jealous is horrible.

Be kind to yourself, it's normal to feel how you do.

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Thank you 💕

[Charmaine89]

I no how u feel when others seem to catch so easily like its nothin.

[Hidden]

Thanks for the advice. I would expect people to be more understanding, it's not easy

💕

[KeeKee21]

I had exactly the same experience recently. She is now 5 months, and rushing to get married. It got better with time, and I just avoided them for abit. Not sure how I will feel when the baby comes. I felt like it should of been us first, and had overwhelming jealousy which is hard to admit. Keep strong and just try and avoid them initially, unfortunately the baby talk never stops!x

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Exactly how I feel! Thanks x

[lovewinspain]

dont feel sad..i think it has happened to most of us including me.....i just pray to god to give me the same happiness i deserve....i just hope n wait...stil waiting time to get started the proces...