I had an interview with a doctor at Occupational Health and thought I'd update that actually I found it quite helpful. I've had odd days off then finally being signed off for I think 5 weeks total going through latter stages of my failed FET (side effects and emotional turmoil became too much). My manager referred me as she is concerned about my job in an adoption team and the impact on me whilst undergoing treatment. I wanted to go to ask advice on future treatment as we are going to keep trying & I wasn't sure how it would be viewed.
Naturally the doctor knew less about the process than me (I got my medical qualification through 100+ hours Google time!!) but she has experience of patients undergoing this and was able to immediately identify feelings of stress/ unable to plan ahead/ isolation/ grief and subsequently will write to my employer to say the future is uncertain and that there may be possible further absences. She was also going to write that I've followed medical advice and am undertaking complementary therapies.
Interestingly she said that research has shown the drugs and stress associated with IVF is similar to that experienced by chemotherapy patients which I found alarming but I did find it online.
I feel reassured & although it's a bit humiliating, better to face this unknown future head on ... Good Luck to all 💗