IVF Waiting Limbo.

[LaceyS90]

I feel like I am in absolute limbo. This post may be a bit of a rant but I am getting fed up of waiting. I've not long been informed that IVF is my only option. Weve been through fertility treatment for 2 years now (almost 7 years ttc). My appointments over the 2 years keep getting pushed back, rescheduled or have had a stranger than normal waiting time. A friend of mine was going through the same process and she was seen & treated within a year. I'm happy for her now she has her success but I'm still mad that I have not had the same treatment or care that others may have had. I have just received a phone call from my fertility specialist to say all of my test results have now expired & I have to do them all again but no service in my area is currently offering ultrasounds. My husband has to resubmit a sperm sample even though his last test results were perfect but the labs aren't accepting sperm at this time. Once again everything is on hold. She says (rather rudely & yawning as if I was boring her) that they will send my IVF referral & the clinic will accept it but will not process it due to the current circumstances. I am absolutely livid. I was taking the time to focus on me & my health but now I've received this phone call I am feeling wildly ignored & irritated they have allowed this to go on for so long. Still mad even after I endured a painful op they insisted I have for possible fibroids/polyps and found nothing- 5 months after that experience i was told chlomid would absolutely work for me but 6 months of treatment & painful symptoms I did not ovulate. The secretary called 3 days later and rexplained everything the doctor had said and made way more sense and had lots more sympathy than the specialist did!

I honestly hate this fertility journey. I hate cornovirus for f**King my year up. This year was finally meant to be my time. If I had the money I would go private but I just can't afford it right now during the financial circumstances of this bloody virus!

Has anyone else been told that they are having to wait to be seen for IVF? I know I should be more patient and understanding because of what is going on in the world but I am so fed up of the strain this journey has had on my mental health. & quite frankly drained & sick of waiting for my good news, I never thought becoming a mother would be like this. It is not fair.

Sorry for the rant & thanks in advance for any advice you may have. Is anyone in the same boat? How are you coping with this waiting? Xx

[Nat246]

Sorry to hear you’ve had such a rubbish time, we all know how frustrated you are! The waiting is awful.

I’ve been keeping busy with decorating/DIY and eating the healthiest ever now I have time to put some effort in.

Would still rather be in the clinic, but feeling like I have achieved something helps me a lot x

[Hope4another]

I don't have any advice, but I just want to say how sorry I am - it sounds like you've been messed about a lot. I hope things get moving for you soon x

[Lisichka]

Hi, just wanted to say that I hear you! Sounds like you’ve had a really tough time. One piece of advice I would give is that squeaky wheel gets the oil so follow up, don’t be shy to ask questions, if someone’s supposed to get back to you and they haven’t, call them up. Yes, it’s all slow because of what’s going on in the world but your journey matters too so ask for timelines and follow up.

I hope things start moving along for you

[Ariel24]

It is so frustrating!!! I never thought we’d still be here waiting! Me and my husband had to have tests redone (I can’t remember when) but some had gone ‘out of date’ I remember at one point so annoyingly had to have them done again.

We haven’t heard anything about our second round of IVF that we were due to start in March. Our clinic isn’t on the list yet to say it’s reopened - it’s NHS altho we’re having to pay for this round but I presume staff are still busy elsewhere and it’ll be extra time for ours to be open ☹️

[Patches86]

This really resonates with me. I constantly feel like I’m being told “next cycle you can start ivf”, whether it’s due to re-doing blood tests, getting appointments etc. It’s been more grueling than I anticipate the actual cycle being. It doesn’t feel like anyone is looking out for me and I’m juggling all these balls (making sure I’ve asked for the correct appointments, possible protocols, bloods etc) and if I drop one then it’s back to “next cycle you can start ivf” because “there’s just this other thing you need to do first”. Obviously covid wasn’t something to be controlled but it just felt like another obstacle. Now that clinics are re-open it’s another month to wait as I’ve just started my new cycle, which is “too late to start this month” - again. Sending love because I feel you!