Don't know what to do

As many of you may know i had a miscarriage last week, i used a frozen egg as part of my first attempt. On one hand I am desperate to start again, to try and get my little miracle, but on the other do I need to take a bit of a break? My partner just says he is happy with whatever decision i want as it is me putting my body through it. Any advice will be much appreciated xx

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  • Hey jillmooney it's heartbreaking what you've been through but your right you need a break let your body rest. It's not easy I know all u think about is going again but stressing won't help either. Try deal with your heartache once you've come to terms with it then try again. I wish u all the luck hun x

  • Hello Jill,

    I had a miscarriage and the doctors were adamant I should take a break. I know it feels like the only thing that would help is trying again quick, but for your mental health too, take a break. Xxx

  • I would definitely agree with others and take a break. It will take you a while to get over this both physically and emotionally. I had a miscarriage in September and we have just started our next round and this is the earliest I was happy to start again. You want to be able to give your next treatment the best possible chance of being successful so I'd wait until your doctors tell you your body has recovered and you feel that you are ready. I was told I could start last month but I just wasn't ready to.

    I tried to send you a message when you first posted your sad news but for some reason it didn't work. I have been thinking of you. Look after yourself and be kind to your body xxxx

  • Hello. I'm so sorry I really am. I know exactly how you are feeling. I misscarried myself not long ago. I would give yourelf more of a break. I'm still not ready to even think about going again. You also need your body have some time to get relatively back to normal. So I really do think its to soon to consider yet. Lots of love and hugs. ️Xx

  • Hi Jill, so sorry for what you are going through but I agree with what has been said. It's your choice but I think you need time to grieve before you move on to another cycle. It's difficult enough without not being emotionally prepared. Take care xx

  • My clinic wanted me to have 3 normal periods after the miscarriage just to get my body back right again. It's so tough lovely, cos the emotional side may take longer to get over. I totally understand you wanting to just move on to the next attempt. I was the same. But the others are right. Just give yourself a few months to come to terms with it and give yr body a rest

    Take care xx

  • I needed about 10 months to feel emotionally ready to try again after my 2nd miscarriage from a natural pregnancy and that was before we knew there was a fertility problem. It's over 3 months since our first failed ICSI.Only you know when you're ready, my hubby said he wanted to try again but would leave the timing down to me. I'm know I'm ready to start again as I feel excited, as well as anxious, about trying again.

  • Hi jillmooney, only you will know when you are ready, so go with how you feel. I had a miscarriage last year and a fail Ivf attempt. I have decided to wait a few months until I feel prepared for good or bad news. Wishing you all the best.

  • Hi, I believe my body responded better to the treatment after taking a break for a while. I've had 4 treatment cycles and after the first 2 I went straight back in to try again as I was desperate for it to work. After my 3rd failed cycle I took some time (1 year) before starting again and my body responded much better than in my previous cycles ie 12 eggs instead of my 1 and 2 previously. This might just be coincidence but I think it was because my body had had time to recover from the trauma of the previous treatments. Your still young and you have the time to take a break if you want too. Good Luck whatever you decide to do. xxx

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