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Today i am struggling a bit ! Eight years ago today is the day I married my husband and the day we both made the decision to try for a little one but it has not happened! I can honestly say I do not know where 8 years has gone and really thought we would of been parents by now :( we have our second go of icsi in a month or two and I am really crossing all my fingers and toes ! Just needed to post this today just feeling a bit emotional x

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wizzleandmolly

Hi Anghun. Wishing you all the best of luck with your second icsi . 8 years is a long long time. My husband and I have been trying for over 3 years now with 2 miscarriages which is heartbreaking but we are still trying our very best to stay positive.

All my fingers and toes are crossed for you.

XX

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Anghun in reply towizzleandmolly

Thank you wizzle and Molly :) fingers crossed for you too x

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Cal79

Wishing u all the luck in the world hun 🍀 x x

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Anghun in reply toCal79

Thank you cal for your reply :)

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Karen82

Hi Anghun, my husband and I have also been trying for 8 years - with not the slightest hint of success. I always wanted a big family and never thought we'd struggle to have children, but every month for 8 years we've hoped the next month would be it. We're on our first attempt at ICSI, I'm on down-reg at the moment. I wish you lots and lots of luck - I know exactly how you feel. Hugs, Kx

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Anghun in reply toKaren82

Thank you Karen, wishing you luck , fingers and toes crossed :) 8 years is a long time but I try to stay positive - some days a little harder. We did our first icsi last year everything went really well until the end which was heartbreaking but i am ready for the next go now :)

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Filmgirl101

It took us 8 years and 6 rounds to get our little girl, it took a lot of overtime to pay for our treatments, but so worth it in the end. Even after we had her, we tried 2 more times for a sibling. I'd like to say it gets easier, but it never does. There's so many emotions involved with wanting to have children. And innocent remarks by well meaning people that hurt to the core. I could write a book about all the things people have said and suggested to me!

Don't give up. Talk to your partner and while you wait for your turn, take pleasure in the simple things.

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Anghun in reply toFilmgirl101

Thank you filmgirl , yes there is soooo many emotions we go through and like you said some peoples remarks really hurt! I am looking forward to my second go I think because I know a bit more of what to expect I was so darn scared the first time ha with no reason to be x

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Maria-Louisa

Hi Anghun, I understand exactly how you feel, it was our anniversary yesterday too and it's just tinged with sadness that we don't have a family yet. I'm trying to have faith that we'll get there. Taking pleasure in the small things sounds like good advice from filmgirl101, I will try that more. We'll be doing our second ICSI in the next few weeks. Good luck to you xxxx

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Anghun in reply toMaria-Louisa

Thank you Maria, fingers crossed for you too :) x

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TwoBlueLines1504

I know how you feel, today is our nine year anniversary. Have had four failed ICSI, one which was a miscarriage. Just about to have our fifth try. Just keeping the faith and being grateful for everything I have. Best of luck to you. Xx

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Anghun in reply toTwoBlueLines1504

Thank you for your reply twobluelines, I struggled with having one failed icsi I don't know if i could handle four! Fingers crossed for you xx

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Shaznay80

Hi my name is Sharon I know how ur feeling I've been with my husband 7 years and still no baby, I've fell 3 times on clomid all ending in miscarriage now I've started clomid again a year later with metformin and still not ovulating it seems my fertility is getting worse 😢 I wish u lots of luck xx

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Anghun in reply toShaznay80

Hello shaz, thanks for you reply . I wish you all the luck tooooo :) x

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