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Hi ladies. I am very new to this but I have been reading some posts over the last few weeks and am ready to start opening up and telling someone my story as your all so supportive.

my husband and I have been together for 11 years married for 6. we havent used contraception since after about a year of being together but I never seemed to fall pregnant, just carried on enjoying life. we have been actively trying for a baby for the past 5 years. I have had operations to investigate if there are any problems and there is absolutely nothing wrong with both my husband and I. I find this even more frustrating as I dont have an answer to the question 'why am I not getting pregnant' ? I was put on 6 months worth of clomid and on the 7th month I fell pregnant. all my dreams had come true the day I did the test. I didn't know I was pregnant as I had what I thought was a period but it was an implantation bleed, I was so over the moon as the following week we were booked in to see our specialist about starting ivf as we had had funding for 2 cycles but now I disnt need this.i went for a private scan and I was 6 weeks pregnant,seeing our baby's little heartbeat was the best day of my life but then 4 weeks later on halloween of all the days I had a bleed. I was so scared and went for a scan that same day to be told there was no heartbeat. I had had a missed misscarriage and the baby had stopped growing around 8 weeks 6 days. my world ended on that very day.i felt crushed and heart broken but my amazing husband and family got me through it all.

I haven't got pregnant again since then and I am now 31 so feel like I am running out of time and I am so so so desperate to be a mum.

we are now back at the specialist and we are all ready to start ivf next month. I wanted to tell you all my story so that I can chat to you all over the next few months and you can help me along the way. it also just feels good to tell someone!!! xx

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Sorry to hear your troubles. It is very tough and heartbreaking. You sound like you have good support though which is so important. Wishing you LOTS of luck with your treatment and I really hope you get your long awaited little bundle. Look after yourself and eachother throughout it all, it's very important as it can be a tough ride! But try to stay upbeat, positive and patient as that will help along the way for sure. You will gets lots of knowledge from ladles on here as everyone has their story and it's a great forum

Good luck xx


You poor thing. It sounds like you and your husband will make fantastic parents and any future baby will be lucky to have you as its Mum and Dad. Fingers crossed for IVF success :) Have you ever had NK cells looked at? It's something I'm going to investigate privately if our upcoming IUI doesn't work (no NHS here :( ). Best of luck and I'm looking forward to hearing how it all goes. X


Hi. i think it may be the only thing they havent checked up to now or I havent heard them talk about it.i will ask my dr when I go back at the end of this month, thanks for the suggestion x

Fingers crossed I will have something to report soon.💉🍼🚼👶


Hello mrsmc84,

I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. You've had a very difficult time.

My hubby and I have unexplained infertility too so I completely understand your frustration! Sometimes, I'm so grateful there is nothing 'wrong' othertimes I just wish we had an answer as clearly something is amiss!

I think at 31 you're still young enough and have plenty of time so try not to stress about that.

Good luck with your treatment x


Welcome sweetie.

I am so sorry for the miscarriage. I really know how much that sucks. Having had one myself after a much wanted baby. Me and my partner have also been together for eleven years married for 8 years this June. We also had been trying for five years, changing diets and work regime etc to see if that would help us get a baby. Did not. So finally plucked up courage to go see gp four years ago now. And we stared treatment fairly soon after that. But only had a successful pregnancy in November last year lost it in December. Like you I also felt like my world had fallen apart. But we also got through it. And are now starting our last cycle at the end of this month.

I wish you all the best.

This support network has been fab in helping me.

Feel free to ask any questions you may have or just to express how your feeling.

Lots of love.



bless you, thankyou so much for replying to my post. you have been through it yourself and I really feel for you. I have everything crossed for you for this cycle. I go back to my dr on 24th so we can go through this one together. xx take care lovely x


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