Day 2 of 2WW

It's only day two and it is killing me! I'm analysing every little twinge! How long does it actually take for the embryo to implant? I had a day 5 transfer?

[Hope23]

The 2ww is agonising its true! Try not to analyse every little twinge! But it's hard not I know. Everyone is different, I got quite a lot of twinges towards the end of the first week and into the second. And it's really common to get twinges, stabs, dull like aches etc so try to rest easy. Drink lots of water and rest when you can. But the main advice is try to put it out of your mind! Lol! Impossible I know! But stay upbeat, and positive and laugh and do fun things, it's apparently really good to be happy and relaxed and when you are thinking about the embryo visualise yourself pregnant don't think negative thoughts about test day!

Good luck to you and I really hope you get your positive xx

[nellynel]

hi try not to think about every twinge etc.. remember that your body has been through a lot and pumped full of drugs so its bound to feel many strange things. The main thing for me was bloating (had to wear a bigger pair of trousers for work) and then feeling like my period was coming (which they actually said was your uterus adapting).. its a hard 2 weeks but keep busy but some nice rest time too. I went back to work, I wouldn't have been able to just take 2 weeks off plus I think you think too much then. Mine was also 5 day transfer and I tested 9 days later I think due to that fact.. have to admit I think I did tests for 2 weeks after that too.. my test day was the Friday following the weds transfer. I fell into the trap of testing the day before thinking its only a day so what does it matter. however on the thurs it was negative so I felt terrible, Tested as planned on the Friday and to be surprise it was positive so try as much as you can not to test early as you will still need to test on your test day and may have spend unnecessary time being upset etc..

good luck and try and think positive thoughts...

[nellynel in reply to nellynel]

hi yes I forgot about drinking plently of fluid. Someone said to be about drinking a pint of milk too. I used to have some cereal for supper to up my milk intake

[Hidden]

The latest research shows that the stromal cells of the uterus envelope the embryo rather than the embryo 'embedding' in to the wall. I think this is a lovely image of you embracing and welcoming your embryo. Visualise this happening in whichever way you imagine it in your own mind. This guides your unconscious mind, which controls all your bodily functions, to what you want it to do. x

[Katrina13 in reply to Hidden]

If an embryo fails to implant, it is 99% likely to be due to chromosomal issues with the embryo. It is important to remember that whilst you can work on visualisation, meditation and relaxation if that's your cup of tea, a large part of the process is totally out of either our conscious or subconscious control. It is important to find the balance between how you can help yourself to a positive outcome, and accepting that failure is not our fault. It is a lovely image to think of the body embracing the embryo, but this implies that failed implantation is thus the failure of us and our body to do this correctly, which is not true.

[Hidden in reply to Katrina13]

Thank you so much for your response. I absolutely agree, there are many reasons why a treatment may not result in a full term pregnancy; the quality of the embryo, the environment into which it is being placed and the interaction between the two, to name but a few. Fertility is an art as well as a science and so much is still not understood and so much is out of our control.

My intent was simply to provide some encouragement and ideas about what individuals might do to feel more in control and at peace during the process. I believe that there is much evidence to demonstrate the ways in which our thinking can actually affect our biology. The Lerner Institute in the US did a study which showed that visualising finger exercises actually brought about 35% muscle improvement. Boston IVF, along with Harvard University, did a study which that showed patients undergoing mind-body programs alongside their treatment had double the success rate of those who did not.

I firmly believe that a failed IVF cycle is no-one's "fault". I also believe that there are things we can do to maximise our chances of success; a belief which comes from both personal and clinical experience as well as from research. I do not believe that the holding of an embracing image implies any personal fault or failure should a pregnancy not result.

I would be interested to know where the 99% figure you quote comes from, simply because it was not in line with my understanding of what I heard being shared and presented about current research and statistics at the British Fertility Society Conference last week - and if I need to revise my understandings this is an opportunity to do so.

x

[Katrina13]

When I had my FET I resigned myself to waiting for the official test date and made my hubby hide all the tests. I then planned something for each day to keep busy.

It's so easy to focus on niggles but I realised that a lot were actually normal belly movements that we just don't normally think about (wind in my case :)).

Waiting was hard but less stressful than an early false negative would have been. I tested a lot in my first ivf and this was definitely worse as it meant a roller coaster from one day to the next.