Still struggling with birth/being around babies

[ZiggyandBC]

Hello,

i have a 3 month old baby niece who I haven’t met yet due to horrendous sickness throughout my pregnancy but also I’m still feeling really sensitive around the babies/pregnancy even though I’m pregnant myself? Has anyone else felt like this?

I feel incredibly guilty that I haven’t met her yet and I know it sounds awful that I haven’t met my own niece and I don’t want my brother and his wife to think I don’t care it’s just very very hard to explain?? It’s like I Still can’t relax even though I’m pregnant

[Shaze12]

No I have never felt like this because even though I struggled with infertility for 5 years and two miscarriages. And now pregnant with my 3rd I just feel really blessed... And not sensitive of anyone elses pregnancy or birth etc because the pregnancy clouds all of it.. im too much in to my own happiness if that makes sense...

[Hidden]

Hey - I think it might benefit you to talk to someone about these feelings and maybe get help to process them.

I am sure when your baby arrives safe and well you will be able to be around other babies and more comfortable with pregnancy etc.

X

[Peonie100]

yes, I’ve felt like this. Not enough to not see my friends with children, but throughout my pregnancy whenever anyone has announced that they are pregnant I immediately was happy and excited but then started to get the fear that only one of us would make it to the end. I guess this is because I’ve had two losses. It’s horrible, but as my pregnancy has progressed it’s gotten better. I’m 35 weeks now and feeling very excited for myself and others who are due around the same time as me!

I’m sure you will feel better as soon as you meet your niece.

[Purpledoggy]

It might be worth speaking to a fertility counsellor to help you process this. PM me if you want details of one I talked to (she did remote sessions via video call). I think some feelings of sadness around infertility never go away - when I had just had my son I felt so happy about other people having babies. Now my boy is 9 months I feel sad when I see pregnancy announcements again because of the uphill struggle I know we will have if we want to have another (which is looming due to my being 41 now - now or never!) xx

[Hidden]

I completely understand where you are coming from. I have not been able to see friends with babies throughout my years of infertility and even now that I am almost 36 weeks it’s still hard. That feeling doesn’t just go away. My niece had a baby yesterday and I have no plans to meet her little one before I know ours is here healthy and safe. Protecting me, my feelings and my little one is number priority. You do what you need to do. x