Still feel sad about pregnancy announcements - is that normal?

[ZiggyandBC]

Hi,

I’m currently almost 33 weeks after a round of IVF and we’re absolutely over the moon and know how lucky we are.

In that time I haven’t seen any pregnancy announcement that have upset me at all - usually the ones on Facebook used to make me upset but since being pregnant I’ve been able to just scroll past.

But today me and my partner have been told that my partners brother and his wife are going to start trying for a baby soon and it’s really made me sad. Im not upset like I used to be before being pregnant but still feel a really deep sadness about it? Im not sure if it’s because it’s just a reminder that we’ve had to go through so much to get here or because I know our little one won’t be the baby of the family for long if they start trying soon.

Baring in mind my partners brother has literally been in court recently and given community service so I think that’s making it sting a bit more as well!

Has anyone else had this? Any tips for dealing with it? I think I was looking forward to our little one being the centre of attention for a little bit after such a long time trying and it sort of feels like if they get pregnant now it’ll take some of the attention away from our little one. Not sure if that makes any sense or if I’m just rambling!

[sj482]

hey! I understand how you are feeling we have gone through ivf with pgd because of a genetic condition that I have. I’m currently 33 weeks and 2 weeks ago my sister in law said here and her boyfriend were 11 weeks pregnant. It really stung.

I have very bad anxiety and constantly think something is wrong with this pregnancy and now all i can think is hers will be fine.

Just wanted to let you know you are not alone!!!

[Shaze12]

No not really... I have gone through so much to get where I am today. I think of it like I hope everyone else trying to get pregnant get pregnant soon because it's the worst feeling ever when it's all you ever want.... Not saying you are not grateful just voicing how I look at it.

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This just sounds like you have some leftover emotions or habits that formed pre getting pregnant so I assume this is totally normal....

I am not affected by pregnancy announcements, but I get really upset when people take for granted that they will have a smooth pregnancy until a 100% perfect baby pops out! That annoys me, as we are so so cautious during the 9 months and anxious pre delivery.

Just take it easy and focus on your own amazing journey Ziggy!

It will be great to have your little one in your arms very soon.

Xxx

[Saskiahope]

Hey!!

I think the whole getting pregnant and being pregnant situation is very emotional therefore any feelings connected to that are so normal.

I’m trying to get pregnant at present with no luck after a year, the hardest thing I’ve found is when anyone I know announces being pregnant, or if I get a feeling one of my friends might be… I currently have two friends who are in the same boat as me, both trying but not succeeding. At times I notice one of them not drinking and my emotions get the better of me and I think “I hope they aren’t pregnant” and it makes me sort of neurotic and bitter, then I have to really bring myself back to more sensitive thinking, as I know one of us will be first and really I want them to be happy and for us all to succeed. It’s just all so hard isn’t it!

I’m so happy that you’re pregnant, and I so hope you find some peace and that also I get to be pregnant too!

Hope you have a better day

[StarsAllAround]

Hi Ziggy don't be too hard on yourself instead think of how amazingly strong you are few women could go through the journey you have to get to this point and none without mixed emotions. You are an amazing woman and when your little one arrives I'm sure you'll be too in love 🥰 for pregnancy announcements and other people trying too be bothered by them. Just focus on your little family x