Miscarriages after fresh & frozen embryo transfers

[Jerseygirl1506]

Hello,

Looking for some advice.

Been TTC 4 1/2 years , had one natural conception in that time, miscarried at 6w3d, March 2022.

NHS referral for IVF May 2022, started July 2022, egg collection end August 2022, fresh transfer straight after, miscarried at 5w.

Began frozen transfer cycle Nov 2022, with oestrogen tablets daily, blood thinning injections & pessaries , negative test after 2WW, came off all drugs, miscarriage started 2 days later.

Clinic suggested I spoke to a counsellor, first appointment is 9th Feb 2023. Which I thought was 9th Jan 2023 and when they didn’t ring today and I realised it was next month, I had a full on melt down.

I just don’t know where to go from here, I feel very low and very emotional, my husband is trying his best bless him, but he doesn’t know what to do either.

We have 4 (day6) embryos left, but at the moment I just don’t think I can go through another cycle, this one really messed with my head. I just don’t feel like myself anymore.

Would greatly appreciate any advice or experience from anyone else going through this.

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I am sorry for your losses and also your failed round. You generally need three miscarriages to be referred to the repeat miscarriage clinic (I don't think they would class your most recent negative test as a miscarriage) but you could try and do so privately.

I have had a number of miscarriages both natural and IVF along with failed IVF rounds too. I was a bit like you in that I did quite a lot in quick succession mainly because I felt like I was doing something proactive and we had waited a long time TTC naturally. The best thing I did was to have a break, have some counselling, and reset myself physically and mentally. its great you have four in the freezer and the initial miscarriages and failed cycle certainly don't mean it won't work next time.. but there are so many hopes and then so much grief associated with IVF and miscarriages that our bodies only have the propensity to deal with so much, and it sounds like you are at saturation point.

You need to take time to grieve for what has happened so far, and gradually you will find the fight to do another transfer, but don't beat yourself up about not feeling ready now. You have been through a lot of trauma and you need time to process it.

There is another board on here called Fertility Network which is much more active than this board (not the Pregnancy support one the other one), and you will find loads of people like us who are super supportive and will give you loads of help and tips. Sending you the hugest hug xx

[Jerseygirl1506 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for replying and sharing your experience with me.

I’m sorry for your losses & failed rounds too, I will definitely be taking your advice to have a break and reset, I have contacted other counselling services, so hopefully someone will be in contact.

Thank you for suggesting the other page I will join that group too.

I wish you all the success in your own journey.