2 miscarriages

[KarlaRP]

Hi anyone else out there had two miscarriages and then had a successful pregnancy? I miscarried at 6 weeks and then 10 months later got pregnant again and then miscarried at 9 weeks. I'm devistated. Miscarriage is just so hard when your longing for a baby. I guess I just need some reassurance.......im so tired since this 2nd one but seems everyone else just expects me to carry on as though nothing happened. I feel awful when some of my friends are expecting and I just can't be happy for them, I'm just feeling jealousy......i know its not fair and wrong but can anyone help that's experienced the same......how to get past it and move on. I'm longing to try again but at the same r time I'm terrified to get pregnant again in case I have another miscarriage........anyone else out there experiencing the same thing......?

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[Bluebirds7]

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriages, it really is a devastating experience.

I had 3 miscarriages over a 10 month period before I went for IVF and I am now 30 weeks pregnant (at 42 years old). I felt like it was never going to happen for me and the feeling of despair was awful.

I found daily exercise really helped me at times and going for acupuncture was also a great help.

Do you have a couple of people you can talk to about it all? Because confiding in someone is really important, it will help you process the miscarriages. If you don't I would recommend you speak to your GP about counselling. It must be especially difficult to deal with at the moment with all the stress of Covid!

I personally started trying as soon as I could after each miscarriage but there was always that feeling of what if it happens again? can I deal with it yet another time? But for me it was the only way forward (especially due to my age). Perhaps if you are younger and have more time taking a break might be a good thing for you to help you deal with the grieve!?

If you do speak to your GP it might be an idea to ask about miscarriage investigations, you normally have to have 3 before they will refer you however I was referred after 2 (really because of my age), but it is worth asking you never know.

Look after yourself and make sure you ask for help when you need it x

[KarlaRP in reply to Bluebirds7]

Thanks for your message, I have been reffered to a gyno.....waiting for that appointment which is also adding to the stress I think.....not knowing what to expect. Got to wait until the end of July for that. I'm 31. Also living in a foreign country which probably doesn't help as keep running into language barriers. 🤞 I may b successful one day.....congrats to u on your pregnancy🤗

[Major2116]

Ohh hun. Everything you typed was me nearly 3 years ago.

We first miscarried at what I thought was 12 weeks but baby stopped growing at 9. December 2016. We lost my nan the year before around the same dates (she was like one of my best friends). That miscarriage lasted well over a month due to complications (baby stuck in my cervix). Our families gathered at christmas n kids running round.

We miscarried again in April 2017 at 5 and a half weeks. I was happy for my friends being pregnant but at the same time full of resentment.

We went to Croatia in July 2017 to have some us time away from everything. A week after we got home, we found out I was about 4 weeks pregnant! I work in the hospital n dipped my urine before we left n it said I had an infection so I assumed my frequent toileting was that. Assumed my nausea was my anxiety.

He just turned 2 in March! My god hes a character. I'm also 20 weeks pregnant. The anxiety never leaves you hun but I just keep telling myself, it's out of my control. Stressing wont make the situation any better.

I joined a miscarriage support group local to me. They were brilliant. Maybe see if theres anything like that near you? They have a facebook group if you want the details? They're all so lovely and very supportive.

Don't lose hope hun! Sorry for the essay! I wanted to share my story with you xx

[KarlaRP in reply to Major2116]

Thanks.....so helpful to have people that have been through it and understand......it seems such a taboo subject everyone is afraid to talk about. Did u take any special meds/vitamins? Just wondered if u took anything to help u carry a full pregnancy?

[Major2116 in reply to KarlaRP]

I took my multi vitamins in all the pregnancies.

I was so strict with following what I should n shouldn't do and what I should and shouldn't wat with our first 2 pregnancies and still lost. With our son, I decided to stop putting pressure on myself. Obviously I didnt eat sea fish (not that I like it) or soft cheeses but it helped not stressing about every single aspect xx

[KarlaRP in reply to Major2116]

Thanks🤗x appreciate your reply

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Unfortunately not for me I’ve had 3 mmc at 12/13w then 2 chemicals I’m 40 now this has been over 3 years I’ve virtually given up, We’ve both had tests done were both fine and I’ve had 2 children previously with no issues it’s just my age can’t turn back the clock and we don’t want ivf or adoption so probably no baby.

[KarlaRP]

Poor you, I feel for you, its so disheartening when it happens. Keep positive. X Ive been told it will happen when u least expect it so 🤞 for u! Xx