Is this normal after a miscarriage?

[Cs131193]

Hello all! I hope you’re all doing ok!

My partner and I had a miscarriage in March of this year. Suddenly, one day 4/5 weeks ago, I came home and just broke down crying. Since then I’ve been having negative thoughts about wether or not I love my partner and I feel numbed to any sort of emotion toward anyone. Has anyone else gone through this after a miscarriage?

Thank you!

Chloe x

[Coral86]

I went through one too and it took over my life felt so depressed for months hated everyone hated the world you just need to give yourself time to heal xxx

[Cs131193 in reply to Coral86]

Thank you for your reply Coral86. I will definitely take the time I need to grieve. Xxx

[Coral86 in reply to Cs131193]

I was exactly the same as the woman below does change your character became very bitter of ppl who were pregnant hated my body I still now think about it and I had mine over 2 years ago that hurt never goes away but you have to force yourself to move forward time is def a healer xx

[Yalda]

I had 3 miscarriages, the last one at 11 weeks and they changed my personality/character. I was withdrawn, sad and angry person. You will get better but you need to give yourself time to heal. I hope you get better. X

[Cs131193 in reply to Yalda]

Thank you Yalda. I just feel as though I can’t feel any love for my partner and the thoughts are making me physically sick to the point where I’m not eating so I feel like I’m really stuck 😔 x

[Peonypop]

Hi Chloe, just wanted to send you a hug, I went through all kinds of feelings, including numbness of emotion towards those closest to me....I realise now that this was my body’s way of protecting itself from losing somebody else you love. Hang on in there, it does get better with time, just focus on being kind to yourself each day and let these feelings come and go as they pop up, it’s all part of grieving. Massive hugs, it’s truly heartbreaking going through a miscarriage xx

[Cs131193 in reply to Peonypop]

Thank you peonypop. Did you experience doubts about your relationship and your love for your partner? I’m really panicked about it all and can’t really calm myself when I have these thoughts come in xx

[Peonypop in reply to Cs131193]

Hi Chloe, I had all kinds of feelings and whilst I didn’t doubt my love for my husband, I did feel quite numb at times towards all those people close to me. It was a phase though and it passed. Me and my husband spent time talking about how we felt or when we’d had a difficult day, that really helped. I found writing down my feelings also helped along with doing some yoga regularly. It helped me to focus on the here and now and less on the miscarriage and what the future holds. Be kind to yourself, it will get easier xx

[Cs131193 in reply to Peonypop]

Hello Peonypop. Thank you! I think I might start doing the same, we both finally sat down tonight and cried together about the loss for the first time since it happened. I feel slightly relieved of some of the anxiety around it. Thank you for your kind words xx

[Cs131193]

Hello all! Just an update on everything, I am now doing better mentally and gave birth to my rainbow baby, a little girl called Isabelle in April 2020. I am also now in the first trimester of another pregnancy and so far my mental health has been doing well through this one. Thank you all for your lovely replies at the time of posting this, I wish you all the best and hope you are all doing well ☺️

[Mugsy5]

I told my husband yesterday that my heart literally feels broken. He’s the only one I can show emotion to. I feel like if I show love or emotion that it means I’m moving on and forgetting the 4 babies I’ve lost. I also have felt that if I show any emotion at all that I want to burst into tears do I just try to feel nothing. I do find that amino acids have helped my moods some. I follow Trudy Scott on fb and she has a book and a lot of good suggestions on amino acids.