Missed miscarriage

[Smcd123]

Hi,

I’m still in shock, went to midwife for check at 15+2 and she couldn’t find heart beat with Doppler. Wasn’t overly concerned but said we could go n get a scan just to check.

Went to hospital at 1300 and by 1310 where told out baby had died 3 weeks before (a few days after dating scan- no issues seen) 😩

Was then told all this information about miscarriage and what we should do, agreed to surgical option and then told that couldn’t be done for 5 days. Ended up being admitted up maternity unit where I could hear newborn babies crying to have my wee baby.

Happened really quickly within 30 mins arrival on ward, waited a few hour later then went home.

Now 48hrs later I’m covered head to toe in a itchy rash and have been diagnosed with a scarlet fever and been told that it could have been this that has caused the death of my baby

I’m completely devastated and don’t think I’m coping very well at the moment, just needed to write this all down to try and make sense of this

Sorry got long post 😢

[Kitcat12]

I'm so sorry for your loss, miscarriage is utterly devastating but to experience it like this seems even more unfair and cruel, look after yourself lovely x

[Poppyhead]

I am so utterly gutted for you. Please take care of your self and know that there are people out there thinking of you. Xxx

[Lots8788]

So sorry to hear this x sending you lots of love and hope you have people around you to support you x

[Smcd123]

Thanks for responses x

I’m just so completely lost right now. Trying to function as have 2 young kids but it’s so not easy. Haven’t told them yet the baby is gonna and got no idea how to do that!

I’m a bit worried because I’m barely bleeding now but think that can be normal!

My partner and whole family are devastated so feel I can’t talk to them without upsetting them.

The baby was so perfect and tiny and I feel like it’s my fault he’s now gone. If I hadn’t been so sick for the last few weeks maybe this wouldn’t have happened 😢😢

[Mara84]

I’m so sorry for your lost. I’ve been through miscarriage myself and I know how does it feel. Sending you lots of love and I hope your heart heals soon enough. ❤️

[Hopingforasign]

Heartbreaking to read your post. I am so truly sorry you are going through this and for the loss of your dear baby. I can't imagine how you are feeling, espically in light of being told you have scarlet fever.

You must have had all sorts running through your mind.

I have had two miscarriages.

The first was my first pregnancy after waiting two years to try due to surgerys (endo diagnosis) . I felt at the time as Devestated as losing a very dear family member. It took me two years to come to terms with it properly and accept it. That was a natural miscariage so I misscariaged then it was sadly confirmed by a scan.

My second miscarriage was last month.

It was a missed miscarriage, the baby had stopped delevoping just under couple of weeks previously to my check up scan.

I had a scan a little before two weeks to check everything for reassurance as had a big bleed at the same stage as the first miscarriage and thought I'd lost the baby. Told all was well.

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The baby must have stopped delevoping a few days after that scan going by the measurements.

I am completely Devestated and it hurts on another level to my first loss. To know I sat through my booking in appointment and my baby had already died. But i didn't know.

I had surgery to manage mine and barely bleed after. Not sure if that helps you to know.

Shocked you ended up on a ward with other mums and baby's. That's just awful for you, im gutted for you it was handled that way. That part of post is a bit unclear so apologies if there was more too it and reasons why that was the case. Don't want you have to go into that or feel you have too as very difficult.

I hope you have recovered from the scarlet fever at least. I know the loss and physical effects last a lot longer.

Please feel free to pm if you need anything or want to ask me something.

Thinking of you and your baby and partner 💓💓💓