Not sure where to start. I just sit here crying because I feel it will never get better. Firstly, I appreciate he is only 4 and a lot of children still struggle, I've been a preschool teacher for 10 years so I've really seen it all, but my own child has left me stumped.
Aged 22 months, his friend began toilet training and my son "want to us potty like Charlie" so we went with it! Dry in a week, asking to go to the toilet, dry when we went on days out. Perfect. 25 months, 10 accidents a day. Not big full wet accidents (he's actually only ever had 1 full wee to the floor accident in 2 years). But he is still....2 long years on, wetting through his trousers up to 10 times per day. Around 50p size to maybe an inch or 2.
He constantly needs a wee, probably goes 15+ times a day. Doctor gave us a drink and wee schedule but he gets so upset during the hour he was to wait and then needs to go so urgently he wets. We've never got passed the 30 mins stage.
Referred to paediatrition who said he's constipated, I'm not convinced as he goes for a poo happily and comfortably once or twice a day, however we have started Movicol now anyway.
But now we face the battle of wills too, because he just cannot be bothered to go the loo that many times (and who can blame him). And he just wets and says "I don't care, I don't want to go".
He starts school soon and I am worried about potential bullying. I think there's something more than potential constipation, I don't think his muscles are working efficiently. But why were they working when he was 2 and now they're not? I'm so stressed and he's so stressed and I just do not know where to go. Paediatric follow up is in 14weeks (6 months after 1st appt) but then we are emigrating so it seems pointless.
Have tried:
Drink and wee schedule, potty in living room, no squash only water to drink, positive reinforcement (medals, sweets, sticker charts, special game time with mummy and daddy, Peppa Pig world..), new pants, new clothes, allowed the iPad on the toilet to relax and let all the wee out....
Why am I failing so much here