Day time wetting 5 year old

My 5 year old is really struggling with day time wetting. He seems to only know he needs a wee when he has a small dot of wee in his pants. He never wets himself at school and has had phases of months when he wasn’t wet himself for months.

We’ve tried so many things. Rewards, timers, even trying to get him to sit on the toilet for longer when he does get wet pants to reinforce that it’s less fun to sit on the toilet for 5 mins than it is to just quickly stop your playing and go for a wee.

I just get nervous when it feels like things stray into a punishment because we don’t want to punish him and sometimes he says sorry and it breaks my heart.

He is clearly anxious about it because he doesn’t like talking about it.

The only thing that works is if we get him to try at least once an hour but then he’s learning no independence with it and as soon as we stop he’s back to wetting himself.

It really seems like he doesn’t have the feeling he needs to wee.

He could probably drink more but has bowel movements at least once a day if not twice.

I just feel like we need a strategy and a plan because at the moment we’re just flailing around in the dark and possibly causing more harm.

Any ideas?

[Hidden]

How is he at night?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Perfect- never an issue. Always has a wee first thing in the morning.

[StellaA]

Does he get himself to the loo after he has a 'dot' in his pants or will he just wet himself and continue whatever he's doing?

If he's dry at night it's more likely a psychological barrier or a sensory thing as you said, has he ever been checked for a uti?

[Hidden in reply to StellaA]

He will come and tell us that he’s got wet pants then often we have to fight him to go have a wee. He’ll say he doesn’t need a wee bit we can’t get him to see the logic that off there’s wee coming out he needs to have a wee!

It’s become a bit of a battle ground.

When it’s not a battle he’ll just go and change his pants and have a wee then calmly tell us he’s had wet pants.

[StellaA in reply to Hidden]

Your battle sounds very familiar, I was locked in one after the schools finished up there.

My GD, who has an underdeveloped bladder and sensitivity issues, she was either going to the loo for 5 minute every 15 minutes basicly whenever she felt any sensation in her bladder.

Or she would totally ignore her bladder until she couldn't hold it anymore and completely flood her drynites.

With almost no middle ground, She was doing what I asked either going to the loo if she felt she needed or hold it as long as she could, just not both. I just didn't know what to do, she was fed up and wanted to be back in nappies, so we're back to square one.

[MitchK in reply to StellaA]

With me:

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Turo Fernandez

[Hidden in reply to StellaA]

We’ve never had him tested for uti- would there be other symptoms?

[StellaA in reply to Hidden]

It makes even a small amount of urine feel like a you have a full bladder, giving a strong urge to pee and it's sore to urinate aswell.

Sophie has suffered from them her entire life, but there more common in girls, I don't know if kidney or bladder stones may be your culprit, it sound like something is making it sore for him to pee.

[Hidden in reply to StellaA]

He doesn’t complain of any pain to wee and he says he doesn’t get any feeling that he needs to. The first feeling he has is that his pants are wet.

[JamesParkin]

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