12 year old daughter started wetting again after a year dry :(

[mumtoL]

Hi all,

My daughter has started bed wetting again after a year of being dry. This has been happening on and off again for the past couple of months (about twice a week). It seemed to coincide with onset of puberty.

She is a high achiever, flying at school and is a very talented performer and she is mortified and embarrassed about this as it’s the one thing she can’t control. She adamantly won’t come to the doctors with me and is almost putting her head in the sand about it saying it will sort itself out. She also won’t use an alarm as she doesn’t want her siblings to know. (Tbh, that never really worked anyway as she is such a deep sleeper!)

I have tried going back to basics with her - drink more in the day, regular loo breaks, nothing after 7:30pm, but so far no good. I am worried that there may be a medical issue, but am hesitant to go back to the doctors as she is so against it.

She has a school camping trip next year which she really wants to go on, but getting to the toilet at night will be a nightmare for her and I am so worried she will wet and be humiliated.

Would be great to hear from parents in a similar situation where teen has started wetting again.

She successfully became dry on 10 mg of oxybutynin previously, so it might be a case of getting this prescribed again. I was hoping it was just a blip, but seems like we have gone back to square one.

Thanks in advance.

[Lasn]

It seems she might be suffering from secondary enuresis which is normal for a retired bedwetter to go through, when they're adolescents. Usually it's not as strong and goes away much faster, but that's all I know considering I'm not a medical expert.

[mumtoL in reply to Lasn]

Thank you for your reply. I hope you are right - it’s not every night, so that’s something.

[annarobish]

Hi, I'm not a parent I'm 15 - but I did start bedwetting again at 12. I didn't want to see the doctor either but did in the end and it turned out I'd started to grow faster than my bladder. It was really helpful to know why it was all happening and it made me feel better about how we dealt with it. I know I'll grow out of it eventually but for the time being I just wear protection at night and everything is just fine! I did start with pull ups but they leaked a lot so now I basically wear nappies! I started with the larger pampers ones and now I use Tena Slip Juniour / AbriForm Juniors. It did take a while to get used to if I'm honest, but now I don't go to sleep worrying if I'm going to wake up in a wet bed and I can sleep with out being stressed. I've found there are loads of girls out there like me - it's not super common but it's not unusual either. I hope this is helpful Anna

[mumtoL in reply to annarobish]

Anna, thank you for your reply - that really does help. So glad you have found a way forward. My daughter isn’t wetting every night (about twice a week at the moment ) and she is definitely worse when she is anxious or very tired.

Thank you again and I will check out the tena Junior as she did try the normal tena are so bulky for her!

It would be good to find something more discreet so she isn’t embarrassed.

[annarobish in reply to mumtoL]

so glad it was helpful.

Here are the people my mum gets them from

incontinenceshop.com/tena-s...

eric.org.uk/shop/abena-abri...

When I was 12 I actually fit in to pampers size 7....?

My heart really goes out to your daughter - please tell her she's not alone!

[Reeeee in reply to mumtoL]

Hiya hoping your daughter managed to pull through this, I used use drynites myself when bedwetting also Pampers Size 8 aren't bad and are cheap if your child is on the smaller side as drynites can be extremely costly.

I've noticed the absorption on the pampers are around the same as the drynites also