Hi there- I’ve spent 5 years fighting for my daughter who is 6 and a half. I think when she was small she was allergic to bottle milk and we didn’t notice that much but she was farty and always went red to poo with her knees up in a corner. She is wee trained but in the following years she has constantly soiled herself and we ended up being referred to a gastroenterologist who we’ve seen for 4 years now. At first they said she was constipated and put her on laxatives but I insisted it wasn’t true and they wouldn’t listen. So she went from soiling 10 x a day to 20x a day until I decided enough was enough. I saw a nutritional therapist who had a poo test done and said she had gut bacteria issues and potential food allergies so we removed dairy and wheat which worked well. We put her on a gut health programme which also really helped. Yet as the years have gone on it’s caused her mental problems too as she cries a lot about her situation and now wants to ignore that it exists which compounds the problem. She will sit in her poo rather than change her pants and get angry if you ask her to go. Recently I had a new gastro and they said she wasn’t constipated but she was anally incontinent- I believe this is anal damage caused by the original allergy and the pushing when she was small. She has no sensation at all and sometimes when she is on the toilet and I ask her has she done a poo she says I don’t know- let’s look- and one is there. The doctor can’t refer me to anyone for help as there are no support services available and we only get an appointment every six months for ten minutes which is pretty useless- she tried to refer us to an incontinence team but apparently this isn’t complex enough an issue to be a problem so the referral was rejected. . I’ve upped the exercise, She is seeing a Pilates teacher, am managing her diet, we juice fresh every day which really really helps- yet she still soils because she has no idea it’s there and if she farts it seeps our too. It’s not constipation yet all the guidance online focuses on it. I am totally lost. Has anyone got any advice? I don’t want her to be bullied by kids at school as she gets bigger, I feel she hasn’t got any dignity given to her and she feels traumatised by being different to everyone else.