It Happens to Gay Guys Too

[RaglandT2]

Hi. I'm a gay man in my early 60s. Wish as I may, my body is not what it was in my 20s. I've been having ED, and piecing apart the medical and psychological issues has been quite a challenge.

[Roger2Dodger]

RaglandT2 ,

I must say early 60's is too young for ED issues. You mentioned medical issues, may I ask what kind? There is some help available for ED. have you done any research or looked into some help for you problem?

G'Luck, hope you find some help with your Issues.

[RaglandT2 in reply to Roger2Dodger]

Oh yes I've read up on it and had the situation examined by several doctors in different fields. Two issues that could have been a cause, but were ruled out, are that I have mild multiple sclerosis and not-mild lumbosacral spinal degenerative disease. The other three, which were indeed involved, were taking Lexapro for depression (I was successfully switched to a newer medication), low blood pressure (a consequence of going into shock after a medical procedure), and low testosterone (I hadn't been either having sex or masturbating very much for years). I have also tried Viagra and Cialis at various doses and have finally settled in at an adequate dose of Viagra when I need it.

It's far better now, but even when I get it up just fine, it doesn't last very long. Worse, it is extremely difficult for me to climax, and I often have to go at it with real energy which wears out a partner's hand or mouth. Maybe I'm stuck with this for life.

[Jeff85705 in reply to Roger2Dodger]

I disagree about 60s being "too young for ED." That is, all due respect, nonsense. I had some ED since my 50s requiring small-dose Viagra. Every man is different, and some dysfunction in the 60s is entirely a normal part of aging.

[Roger2Dodger in reply to Jeff85705]

Jeff85705,

With all due respect, it not completely "nonsense." I was saying to RaglandT2, without any medical issues, or psychological problems , a man at age 60 could perform very well. If you are healthy and have no hang ups , a man at that age could perform like a porn star. yes, every man is different, but some have underlying problems. I said this to him, without knowing his issues. I do not think when you reach age 60 you will began to have dysfunction with sex. If you do, then you have underlying issues of some sort.

[Jeff85705 in reply to Roger2Dodger]

The underlying issue post-60 is simple: aging. If you are still a stallion at 60+, then good for you, but "perform like a porn star"? Please. In my opinion, it is irresponsible to assume that some lessening of erectile ability is abnormal. I don't like to push people into getting extensive tests if their penis doesn't stand at attention as well as when they were 16 or 26 or 36 or 46. "Low testosterone" is a new frontier for big pharma. Most erection problems are not related to "low-t," and testosterone therapy has its own bad side effects. If you are young and experience ED, especially if you get hard and then the erection goes away, you may have "pelvic leak" syndrome, which means that the blood supply to the corpora cavernosa leaks instead of remaining in the penis (which causes the erection). Also, mental health plays a role.

[Redwood1234]

I am 62 and I have ED. I don't have any significant physical medical problems and I believe my situation is rooted in psychological issues. I was diagnosed with PTSD decades ago after an incident, and even though I don't suffer from PTSD anymore, my penis doesn't respond like, well, like it did before that period of crisis in my life. For myself, I'd rather live with this condition now, than take drugs like Viagra. That's just my choice.

[RaglandT2]

The problem with psychologic cause is that it isn't obvious to you when you have it. It is subconscious.

[Vitruviusman]

I had my surgery 2010 and still cannot have any erection. I have not had sex in over 6 years, and dating has been tortuous despite that fact, I keep my self in excellent physical shape. I am 5'8" 145lbs, 30"waist, 41" chest. Still this is not good enough to attract dates for long term .ED meds do not work only the injections and they are painful, bleeding NOT romantic.