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Developing erectile dysfunction

WellySam
WellySam

I have been suffering increasing from this over the last few years. I now haven't had a full erection for around three months. As my partner and then I have been unwell in turn, we haven't had sex for months. In fact due to other problems I have, I have been sleeping in the spare room.

I have been masturbating regularly but have not reached a firm erection. I do ejaculate and enjoy masturbating but I would like to resume sex with my (male) partner. I am worried that my lack of an erection will spoil it for me and for him.

I am reluctant to take any meds, so are there any other techniques you could recommend Do cock rings work for example?

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Without knowing anything more about your age, weight, whether you smoke, etc, it's difficult to give the best advice. I would encourage you to speak to your doctor, in case they think any more tests are needed. I was 43 when I began experiencing some erectile dysfunction. That was nine years ago. Since then I've been watching my diet, exercising more, and (as prescribed by a urologist) been taking 10mg of Tadalafil (sometimes sold as Cialis) twice a week, or less often if I've not got any sex on the horizon. It's really helped and I've not had any problems getting a firm erection. In fact, some guys have commented on how firm I am and how it often stays a little hard after climax (which is always nice to hear). I've never tried cock rings but personally have always been a little wary of them (I know other guys use them a lot, so by all means experiment).

I have had bouts of using a vacuum pump (a cheap one from a sex shop - not an expensive, medical-grade one), more as an exercise tool before masturbation once or twice a week, as I think pumping blood into all the blood vessels of the penis is not a bad thing in maintaining them. It comes with an elastic cock ring that you can slip on after you've pumped, but I've never tried using the ring.

L-citrulline and L-arginine are amino acids linked to good blood vessel performance, so I also take those (from health food shops or ordered online), and they were also suggested by the urologist who saw me. Whether they have a big impact or not, I can't really say - I think it's more down to the Tadalafil.

If you smoke, do try to quit – as that can make a big difference.

There are lots of things to try out there, so wishing you the best of luck - and don't be shy of talking to a doctor about it.

WellySam
WellySam in reply to westbury18

Thanks, I don't smoke but an a bit over weight.

I tried Viagra which gave me a very hard erection but not much pleasure. I also felt a but unwell after.

is Cialis different?

westbury18
westbury18 in reply to WellySam

I've not tried Viagra (yet). My doctor recommended Cialis as it stays in your system for up to 72 hours - so taking a small dose twice a week means you've almost always got some in your system, whereas I believe Viagra lasts about four hours? One other thing I forgot to mention: Blood flow around your body decreases significantly after a heavy, fatty meal as your body diverts blood to your intestines to absorb the food - so avoid a big, fat-laden meal before sex or masturbation. I have noticed it more difficult to get a hard-on in the evening after a cream-laden dessert, whereas after a period of no food (i.e. on waking in the morning), hard-ons are easier. Something else to bear in mind.

WellySam
WellySam in reply to westbury18

Thanks. I had a call with my GP booked today anyway, so I raised it (no pun intended). He prescribed viagra before. He has now prescribed Cialis so hope to get it tomorrow

WellySam
WellySam in reply to westbury18

Pleased to report a good first experience of Cialis. Took m first dose early this morning and had a nice erection that ran the course

westbury18
westbury18 in reply to WellySam

Pleased to hear it! I found that the first time I took Cialis, the effect was more 'subtle' than I was expecting. I think I'd read horror stories about people taking Viagra and getting a hard-on that wouldn't go down, or having side effects, which made me a little nervous about trying an ED drug. But once I realized that it doesn't immediately give you a hard-on, and you do need to be aroused, I understood it better. All the best to you and your man.

WellySam
WellySam in reply to westbury18

Exactly. Apart from making me feel ill afterwards, Viagra gave me an erection that was almost unpleasant. It was very hard and I lost sensation. I also had difficulty climaxing.

Cialis gave me a more natural hard-on this morning. At first, like you, I didn't think it was working, but as I got aroused I saw the difference. It was firm like it used to be, but not steel hard, and I enjoyed playing with myself. It took me longer to climax than normal, but that is no bad thing when you are enjoying it.

Many thanks for the recommendation.

WSOPeddie
WSOPeddie in reply to WellySam

Maybe you took too high a dose of viagra? Try breaking that 100 mg pill and take a half dose.

TheGeorge
TheGeorge in reply to WSOPeddie

The packet of Viagra Connect says "take a whole tablet," ie. don't cut it. What do you think happens if you do cut the tablet in half?

I think you should consult a doc, and maybe try some meds anyway...

Hi - mirroring what others have said , without knowing more its hard to comment but talk to partner- you need to , this can push people apart but you need to talk & talk to gp

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