Pain during sex

[sparky_me]

Hi all, hope you're all okay. I wondered if anyone had and advice about pain during sex - I have endo and PCOS, and find sex painful at the worst, and extremely uncomfortable at the best. It's really starting to get me down as I'm in a long term relationship and find myself avoiding it. It has also made my sex drive completely gone. Does anyone have any tips for this? someone recommended herbal supplements that increase your libido, am wondering whether to give that a go. Thanks for reading xxx

[Dee_EndoUK Moderator Endometriosis UK]

Hi sparky_me

Sorry to hear you're experiencing a lot of pain at the moment. I can totally understand why you want to find something that will help, but please do be careful when taking supplement advice from any person or company who doesn't specialise in endometriosis.

If you are considering taking any kind of supplement, I would recommend speaking with a GP or qualified Nutritional Therapist, who are best placed to advise you on this.

In addition, if you're interested in finding out more about diet and endometriosis, it could be worth reading 'Endometriosis - a key to healing through nutrition' by Dian Shepperson Mills and Michael Vernon, which is available through Amazon.

This suggestion, along with many others can be found on our Endometriosis Treatment Information Pack at endometriosis-uk.og/endomet...

Wishing you all the best x

[Hidden in reply to Dee_EndoUK]

I use a few drops of essential oils and cup of magnesium bath salts to help with pain and relaxation. Lavender, sandalwood and ylang ylang are recommended for sex drive.

I also set aside time when Im not rushed and avoid certain positions. Being as relaxed as possible and not feeling under pressure may help. Sometimes it’s not possible so don’t beat yourself up, or let it put you off. Other things with your partner can be intimate like massage, or just being together.

[rockstarchick in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much this is so helpful - I will definitely try your recommendations. Xxxx

[EliH]

Hey.. just wanted to say that I am experiencing the same. When sex is painful I try to avoid certain positions and that helps and I notice that when I am relaxed it is better regarding the pain.. but in general, I find it extremely hard to relax, because I am continuously thinking/observing/feeling if this position is ok, or whether he doesnt go in too deep.. which on its turn reduces the fun and 'free' feeling of seks and therefore it affects my libido massively. I find myself not enjoying sex as much, and I almost feel disconnected from my body/sexuality. And even though my partner is very understanding, I feel bad for having such a low libido..

Have you find some things that work for you in the mean time?