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Infertility

Hi everyone. I am 40 years old. Infertility is the biggest nightmare in any couple’s life. There are many reasons for infertility, some are related to a male partner and some are due to complications in the female reproductive system. Whatever the reason may be the pain of not having a baby is very depressing and disappointing. I am going through the same pain. the only unhappy or saddening thing in our life is that we are unable to have babies despite all their efforts. I need help.

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Hello lovely

I'm so sorry. It is the worst thing about endo.

Have you tired IVF or is that not an option? Surrogacy?

There are other ways of making a family (adoption or fostering) I know it might not feel like the same but families do come in all shapes and sizes these days.

This is something we are trying to get our heads round too. It is awful and I feel like such a failure. You are not alone xx

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Passing on big hugs as I had 7 years of the same pain. Please speak to your endo consultant as they understand the issues well. They were great before and after my ectopic and tried everything to help.

I spent many years angry and jealous of every family or pregnant woman I saw.

Good luck and best wishes from me & my little miracle Aimee x

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Hello there!

Stay strong! It is indeed a difficult thing to accept you can't have a baby. Reproduction is a primitive need. For some it can be as important as getting food because it ensures the survival of your family. Also, the much love filled in your heart makes you wanna have a cute angel to share it with. But when so much advanced medical science uses the phrase 'we tried our best, we are sorry' it aches. It aches you to your bones. But what can we do? Gather up the pieces. Keep trying. Keep struggling. Even if you'll fail you'll know that you tried your best. You won't regret not trying. In all of this , trying to stay positive is the hardest. But try anyway. More power to you! Xxx

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Hey, am sorry for what you are facing in your life. Indeed every couple wished to have kids to complete their family. But unfortunately because of some reasons they didn't able to give birth to a child by their own. It sometimes results in separation of couples and even in severe cases, divorce becomes the reason for all this. I think because of age factor you are not conceiving naturally but don't need to be hurt. It is all natural Many women out there faces this issues. Talk to your DH about other options and go for them. There are many solutions for your problem like Surrogacy. Surrogacy is the best option I have seen in my life for infertile mothers. It is spreading amazingly which is really great Stay strong and face all this time with patience. you will surely get positive results. Good luck.

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Hello dear! How are you doing now? Do you consider surrogacy? I want to tell you that I'm really sorry about your situation. I know that this time is very tough for you. I understand that this is hard to struggle with infertility. I just wanted to tell you to look at the situation from the other side. First of all you still have a great chance of having a baby. Second of all there are higher chances to carry a healthy baby because it will be a surrogate mother who will have the pregnancy and give birth. This's still hard because it's not you who will be carrying your baby. At least you will know that chances of carrying a healthy baby are much higher. I wish you to make a decision which will be the best for you. We are all here to support you. If you have a need to talk to someone just let us know.

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