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Hi everyone. I am 40 years old. Infertility is the biggest nightmare in any couple’s life. There are many reasons for infertility, some are related to a male partner and some are due to complications in the female reproductive system. Whatever the reason may be the pain of not having a baby is very depressing and disappointing. I am going through the same pain. the only unhappy or saddening thing in our life is that we are unable to have babies despite all their efforts. I need help.

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Hello lovely

I'm so sorry. It is the worst thing about endo.

Have you tired IVF or is that not an option? Surrogacy?

There are other ways of making a family (adoption or fostering) I know it might not feel like the same but families do come in all shapes and sizes these days.

This is something we are trying to get our heads round too. It is awful and I feel like such a failure. You are not alone xx


Passing on big hugs as I had 7 years of the same pain. Please speak to your endo consultant as they understand the issues well. They were great before and after my ectopic and tried everything to help.

I spent many years angry and jealous of every family or pregnant woman I saw.

Good luck and best wishes from me & my little miracle Aimee x


Hello there!

Stay strong! It is indeed a difficult thing to accept you can't have a baby. Reproduction is a primitive need. For some it can be as important as getting food because it ensures the survival of your family. Also, the much love filled in your heart makes you wanna have a cute angel to share it with. But when so much advanced medical science uses the phrase 'we tried our best, we are sorry' it aches. It aches you to your bones. But what can we do? Gather up the pieces. Keep trying. Keep struggling. Even if you'll fail you'll know that you tried your best. You won't regret not trying. In all of this , trying to stay positive is the hardest. But try anyway. More power to you! Xxx


Hey, am sorry for what you are facing in your life. Indeed every couple wished to have kids to complete their family. But unfortunately because of some reasons they didn't able to give birth to a child by their own. It sometimes results in separation of couples and even in severe cases, divorce becomes the reason for all this. I think because of age factor you are not conceiving naturally but don't need to be hurt. It is all natural Many women out there faces this issues. Talk to your DH about other options and go for them. There are many solutions for your problem like Surrogacy. Surrogacy is the best option I have seen in my life for infertile mothers. It is spreading amazingly which is really great Stay strong and face all this time with patience. you will surely get positive results. Good luck.


Hey, don't be depressed. I know it hurts so much. But don't give up. You should keep trying. You shouldn't lose hope. Everything comes in time to you. Today, nothing is impossible. Technology can make anything possible. There are many alternative methods that can give you this blessing. Consult a good doctor and don't stop.


Hey dear! Hope so you will be fine. Exactly, I also felt so sad to know about your condition. But don't worry it is the part of life. Every 6th couple is facing such issues. I think there is also some options like surrogacy and IVF that may help you get out of this situation. It's really helping and has high success rates. I hope it will be good for you


I'm so sorry about your situation. How are you doing now? It's really hard to go through troubled ttc. It makes me sad so many couples nowadays face infertility. I wish all of us could conceive naturally right away. I wish all of us have no reasons to turn to additional help. Still we are lucky to have options which may help us to become parents. I also faced infertility. Unfortunately I can't carry a baby due to my health condition. I had termination of a pregnancy back in 2012. My husband and I were trying to conceive for a long 9 years. Now we are looking into surrogacy. This option gives me belief that we will become parents despite my disease. I want to say all women out there who faced infertility do not waste time on stress and sadness. There are many options. I'm sure there is at least one option which will definitely help you to become a mother.


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