I fell mad angry and upset that my big sister is pregnant

[Path_finder]

Yesterday my sister anounced that she was pranganet witch made me up set. I fell like i should be happy for her but i can't be happy i fell like i won't be abel to love the baby i fell like i can't talk to anyone becaus their all happy. What should i do?

[Susybee]

So sorry to hear how you feel. Have you had trouble ttc? I imagine it's hard if so. You're doing a positive thing in recognising it and asking for help. Do talk to a trained counsellor if need to about negative feelings. She's your sister so I'm guessing you'd like to try and get through the feelings to be more positive towards her? Give yourself some time too and try be honest, she may understand? You're entitled to feel how you feel it's how you manage the feelings that's going to help you move forward. Take care xx

[Jen82]

First don't beat yourself up feeling this way. It's natural feeling. I've had this with friends for the last few years. I also get upset and jealous when I hear from other friends what they are up to or blokes they're dating when I struggle to get motivated to do anything and all I do is work cos I have nout out to do. Which causes pain so go round and round in pain. I had friends say they would trade to be able to go off and have a massage like I can then have their kids. I would trade to have their life to have a family!!! But I so appreciate my massages (help with my pain) and not having to get up for a crying baby. Children are not as easy as people think (I work with kids) so ur sister will be envious of ur life soon enough!

Do speak to your sister. I've lost friends not talking about things. It was bloody hard with some but we have moved through it and I don't mind being auntie Jen on my terms. And remember you are allowed to be upset and angry!