Laughed at!

[Jullaly]

Difficult morning, I have admitted to a group of friends this morning that I have nearly completed week 2 of C25K. They laughed at me .. you are not quite built for running they said. Its really knocked my confidence.

[Bluebirdrunner Graduate]

I bet they secretly wish they had the confidence and gumption to do it...😉

Don't worry what they think, you know this is doing you good, and in a few weeks time I reckon some of your friends will start taking an interest too!

Keep going, you have all the support you need here😊xx

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Bluebirdrunner]

Thank you, this is just what I needed. I had started to question myself on the way back from having coffee with them. The little voice in my head saying ..perhaps they are right who on earth do I think I am to be able to run ..but I am doing it and I am completing the runs and I am enjoying it. Thank you for your support

[davelinks Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

And who do you think you are to think you're not able to run!😊

Take no notice, your friends are clueless about c25k

There are and were a lot of large people on here including me who have reaped the benefits of thier efforts doing the programme, I must say though that c25k isn't a weight loss programme but can help tremendously.. well done! keep at it and keep posting on your progress..😊

[VictoriaRuns Graduate]

Sometimes people don't realise they are being hurtful. I'm sure if they stopped to think about it, they would realise it was wrong of them to do that, and perhaps came from a place of jealously that you are taking ownership of your health and body in a way they wish they could. You'll be laughing the one laughing when you have graduated and are running round laps of them all. You are human, so you are built for running. Hopefully your friends will come to their senses and be more supportive but in the meantime, keep posting here, we are your cheerleaders!

Well done on nearly completing week 2!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to VictoriaRuns]

Thank you very much. I think in their eyes I was the 'fat' friend for years and years. But I have lost 3 stone and I am completing each run step by step. From feeling rubbish this morning, the support from you all on here is amazing so I am now thinking ..I will show them!

[Jen58 in reply to Jullaly]

As you say you were their fat friend , (Bulling comes to mind )

Friends get jealous (nice Friend 🤔)

I would also of been hurt

Don't let these people get to you carry on and yes you will show them 👍🏻

Remember that you are doing this for you not them

You don't need there negative comments

Some people are just so bloody rude

and hurtful 😡

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Jen58]

Thank you for your support, I was genuinely shocked at their response ..and hurt

[Jen58 in reply to Jullaly]

You have every reason to be 👍🏻I would of been too

I would rather not be around people like that but that's my choice, maybe you should let them all know how hurtful they were

Give them something to think about

In the meantime chin up Mrs 😊you can do this

Lots of positive attitude on here 😉

[Dogdante in reply to Jullaly]

I think you are doing great, your friends are probably a bit jealous that u are doing the program and wish they could too, keep running and keep smiling it will be worth it in the end, I am on week 5 now 2nd run, its not easy butI I will keep at it, even if I have to repeat a week.🏃🏾‍♀️ x

[Hidden]

Sounds like sour grapes to me! That's hurtful for you - I would feel the same (I'm def not built for running!) As Victoria runs said - sometimes people don't think about what they r saying & don't mean to be hurtful. You keep going - you r doing way better than me - I haven't even started yet!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I was hurt but I will show them I can and I will do this

[Clairecandothis Graduate]

This makes me cross. How dare they. Are they out there trying it? Grrr. I'm not built for running, in the traditional sense of slim but I did this app and I can now run 5k. My silhouette has changed too but mostly my confidence in me and my moods have improved loads. Stick with it. Don't let them make you feel self conscious. I started in tracksuit bottoms and a hoodie but it is warm now so leggings and t-shirt is needed. Most of my friends though I wouldn't stick to doing this, but that made me do it all the more. So stick it back at them in 2 months time..... when you can run for 30 minutes and they can't! X

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Clairecandothis]

Thank you .. I am more determined than ever now. In the past I may have given up as they will have re affirmed my own opinion of myself..but not any mere ..I will show them

[Jen58 in reply to Jullaly]

Show them you will 😊

[triumphbabe Graduate]

Oh dear, maybe not such good friends. Are any of them runners? If not maybe jealous because you're actually doing something to get yourself fit and healthy. You're doing really well so keep it up. You'll always get lots of support on here.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to triumphbabe]

you are right, non of them are runners, I love the support on here. I honestly can say this is exactly what I needed to get on here for positivity and knock their negative comments right off track

[Seasidepanda Graduate]

But you are up off the couch trying to do something for your future, are they?!

I don’t think anyone is “built for running”. I’ve formed a group to run with and I was at the back the other day looking at everyone. We are all mums that haven’t given ourselves much attention for a while. We are all different shapes and sizes, yet here we are, now all graduating!!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Seasidepanda]

How amazing to form a group ..in fact when i meet with same friends next week I will do exactly that..ask them if they want to join my group!!!

[GoGo_JoJo Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

Brilliant idea. Be the better person and rise above their bs. 🌟🌟🌟

[Lrw2212 Graduate]

A lot of people would say I am not built for running. I don't think I am built for running! However, I completed c25k anyway and I am all the prouder for not being a "natural runner." With every run you complete, you're proving those people wrong.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Lrw2212]

Thank you it will make me more determined to prove them wrong ...

[Realfoodieclub Graduate]

Try not to let them get you. I had a similar experience when I was going through the program, a group of “friends” laughed because they had seen me on the walking segment. Now they all ask how my training is going as I get ready for my second half marathon this year, no more laughs now I feel l have won one over on them, so I have a sly smile to myself. You will get there and they will stop.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Realfoodieclub]

Thank you, what an inspiration you are

[SuperMouse Graduate]

Don't you listen to them! I bet they are actually envious that you are actually getting off the couch and out there! Well done and carry on!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to SuperMouse]

I will carry on thank you as always for your support

[Millsie-J Graduate]

I am a decade older than you, I carry extra weight, so I do not look like a typical runner at all. But out of all of my friends ( many are younger); I am the only one who runs. I run for me, for the ‘me’ time and for the health benefits it brings, so I don’t really care what others think.

Some time ago I mentioned I was about to do my first organised 10k event. One of the guys..... 10 years younger than me, patronisingly told me, “10 k is for proper runners you know.....it’s a long way, even I would struggle to do that particularly in the time you are aiming for” he said. I told him, don’t worry R, your slow 10 k is as far as my faster one! Teehee, I am Infact very very slow! He actually doesn’t run!😏

I’ve been a runner for a couple of years now. I never talk about my running to friends unless they ask. But because they know I still run after all this time they have actually now began to ask about it quite a lot.

One very good friend last week told me she admires that I run regularly, and how proud she is to tell people about me. I never expected that!

So don’t worry about it, just keep going. Wait for their realisation that you are runner and bathe in your own success regardless. You are doing great!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Millsie-J]

Thank you, it is a shame that there is a 'stereotype' for runners, I think its great that I can bust that myth..

[mrrun Graduate]

Great friends! Please say hello to them on my behalf.

And what's their level of fitness? And how are they built? Low punch, l say.

You are doing the right thing and doing it for yourself, your health.

Good on you!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to mrrun]

Thank you ..yes they are a diverse bunch of shapes, sizes and fitness levels. I am doing it for me and I will show them

[lagatachocolate Graduate]

And i bet they’re all perfect too. 🤔

You’re doing a great thing for you and your body and we’re here to support you all the way!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to lagatachocolate]

and thank goodness for your support, the old me might have given up because of the negative voice in my head ..not know ..I know I can do this

[lagatachocolate Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

You absolutely can. Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do!!

[Sadie-runs Graduate]

Not quite built for it?! You are a human, right? With legs? You ARE built for it. All humans are built for it.

And get new friends. Kidding aside, that's not very supportive if them…the trouble is, when we start to take care of ourselves and exercise, it makes those who don't, examine themselves, maybe even feel guilty for not exercising.

Please don't let it knock your confidence. Keep going. You are doing something truly wonderful for yourself.

Sadie-runs xx

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Sadie-runs]

Thank you very much for your support, its just what I needed after this mornings comments ..I will do this and whats more I am thoroughly enjoying it

[skeenie Graduate]

If youv'e lost weight and are now running your on the way to a new you who will be more confident , fitter and will live longer . well done feel good about yourself

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to skeenie]

yes I am proud that I have managed to lose the weight and now getting fitter .. everyone is so supportive on here I know where I need to come for encouragement

[GoGo_JoJo Graduate]

What!? Woah!! ✋

What anyone else thinks is their problem!!

They sound like petty little children. Not sure I'd be calling them "friends"🤔

Anyone can do this and you are already so much further ahead of them for having made the decision to start and getting going.

They will be amazed and awed when you complete W9.

Don't let their preconceptions spoil something great. You are doing great 👍😉

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Thank you very much. Unfortunately I have always been seen at the 'fat' friend but now I've lost the weight and started to look after myself, they probably can't quite believe it. But I will show them

[GoGo_JoJo Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

You will indeed. Then you'll see who the real friends are.

Keep your chin up, you're doing the best for you not for them. We've got your back.👍😁

[Amandana]

Oh my. This makes me really upset to hear. Please don't take it to heart - when someone is judgmental it's mostly about them - their lack of confidence, how hard they are on themselves, their fixed mindset (have a look at Carol Dweck's work if you're interested in fixed vs growth mindset). However, even a lot of really judgmental folks wouldn't laugh out loud at another person and comment on their body - that is a low blow and speaks volumes about them.

Everyone has an off day and says something a bit foot-in-mouth to a friend now and then, but this went beyond that. Hopefully you're able to see they aren't very good friends and distance yourself a bit from them or call them on their BS.

I certainly don't have a 'runners body' (whatever that is)... but I do understand that you don't start out with one!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Amandana]

Thank you, to say i was hurt was an understatement. But thanks to you and everyone else on here I will overcome the negativity and show them!

[lardofale Graduate]

This forum is full of 'not quite built for running' people! I graduated last August having never been a runner or had any ambition of being so. In 10 days time, at the age of 48, I'm running a half marathon. Stick it to your 'friends' and go for it mam, there is a running family of friends here to support you!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to lardofale]

There sure is amazing support on here ..and I will do exactly that ..I have signed up for a race for life cancer run and I will show them

[Jb33 Graduate]

I felt saddened reading your post because I know I am very far from having a runners body?? as I’m overweight and would be really upset if my friends said this to me. You have obviously got great determination if you’ve lost 50lbs so far 👏👏 I’m sure you are so proud of yourself & rightly so, your determination will push you through the next 7 weeks to graduation. You don’t need to prove anything to them they’ve already seen you lose the weight and probably are a bit jealous that you are making all these positive changes to your life & health. Well done oldladyruns (you’re not exactly old though,lol) be proud and keep runnng 🏃‍♀️

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Jb33]

Thank you I was extremely sad and upset this morning but I have rallied after all the support you get here. I will show them that their 'fat' friend has worked hard to lose the weight and run for my own health.

[Jb33 Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

You go and just show them 🙌

[GingerBohemian Graduate]

So...

If each of them was running a marathon every week themselves then a) they may be better placed to advise and b) then they would have encouraged you to do it and supported you all the way.

My assumption here is that they are inwardly envious that you have the strength to go out and do something that they would like to do themselves but do not have the willpower or courage.

People in the para olympics that are missing a leg or are blind. They are not built for running but they still do.

You will find plenty of great friends in here that will enjoy reading your journey. And then you become an inspiration to those that follow behind you.

The 'friends' that laughed? Friends?

Stick with it. This is such a great journey that changes so much more of the person than just their fitness.

Be proud. Enjoy the journey.

GB

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to GingerBohemian]

Thank you and I was enjoying the journey, I felt on top of the world but it is surprising how hurtful comments can knock your confidence. But thank you to you and all on here my determination is back with vengeance and I will show them

[Jude1963 Graduate]

You show them!!!!

They’ll feel so stupid when you can run for 30 minutes!

You will do this!! 💪🏽

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Jude1963]

Thank you, I will do this, it just shocked me at the time ..but showing them will be the best way forward

[rosemel64]

Friends.....really! They should be supporting you and encouraging you. You just show then girl!!!! #thisgirlisonfire

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to rosemel64]

Thank you I will ..I was taken aback but because of the amazing support on here I am focussed on showing them I can do this ..and once more I am enjoying the journey

[rosemel64 in reply to Jullaly]

Of course you can do it!! I am heading towards Week 5 r3. (age53, over weight). I just need to find time. Heading down to the Peak Dsistrict tomorrow and I am gonna get this run done then....for sure!!!!!! its hanging over me ha ha .

You get amazing support because we all know its achievable if you stick to the plan.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to rosemel64]

Good Luck at the Peak District tomorrow, thank you

[lisavic4439]

How rude of them. Sounds like a case of jealousy to me. Show them that you are built for running. Imagine their faces when you tell them that you’ve completed the plan and are running for 30 minutes 😊

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to lisavic4439]

I know, I was terribly upset, but I have told them I will do this as I have signed up for a 5K race for life .. I will prove them wrong, besides I'm thoroughly enjoying it

[lisavic4439 in reply to Jullaly]

I have just read what you’ve written in your profile and you have done amazingly well and should be so proud. Come on here for support and to shout about how well you’re doing. Make sure you get your friends to sponsor you for your race for life 😉

[TailChaser Graduate]

I know how hurt you must feel, I’ve been in that place. The best thing you can do is prove them wrong. When you do that it sets you up for many, many other achievements because you know you can and you’re not afraid of what people think anymore! Go for it 😊

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to TailChaser]

Thank you, you are so right, I will prove them wrong, so determined now

[SusieHicks Graduate]

Silly people! Nor am I ( built for running) and I know how it feels to be mocked by a friend! I didn’t run for 45years because someone laughed at me when I was a plump, unco-ordinated 12 year old doing school sports. What a waste!! Keep going and ignore them, you’re a star for doing it and they are very silly !!!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to SusieHicks]

I will keep going, thank you

[ancientrunner Graduate in reply to SusieHicks]

Well done for doing it now then!!!

[SusieHicks Graduate in reply to ancientrunner]

Thankyou! One of the pleasures of being ancient is caring much less abou what people think, though I do still cross the road to avoid being overtaken by little old ladies with grandchildren

[ancientrunner Graduate in reply to SusieHicks]

Exactly, I started at Can't Sing choir recently having been told at junior school I was tone deaf. Now I know I am not tone deaf but just don't have a very good voice. Who cares!!

[SusieHicks Graduate in reply to ancientrunner]

Absolutely! And nor me!

[mateinone]

Admitted to a group?

The fact you are doing it means it is something you an announce, nothing shameful to admit to.

You have your arms and legs and most of all you are showing you have the courage to do it, that to me shows you are built for it.

Keep going and don't let any haters detract from what you are doing, it is amazing

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to mateinone]

I have never enjoyed anything as much as I am doing in going through the C25K, thank you

[Nenenene Graduate]

Urgh! I despise people who have nothing better to do than push someone else down. Like several others have mentioned, if you have a body and use it to run, then you have a runners body.

If this putting you down/laughing at you was something that has happened before, I would honestly advise you to cut them out of your life. It might sound harsh, but you deserve to have friends that support you and lift you up. People who put you down are not worth your time. They just are not. We are usually harsh enough on ourselves, having other people, so called "friends" putting us down, is not something we need.

Take the encouragement here to heart and know that they were wrong to laugh at you. You are doing something, and from the first step you took towards finishing a run, you became a runner. Your body became a runners body. And you've got this, just power on, I'm rooting for you!

/Nene

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Nenenene]

thank you very much Nene, I was so disheartened this morning but the support on here has absolutely made me more determined than ever.

[Madsimmo Graduate]

Well personally I think if you have legs, lungs, strength of character and some gumption which you clearly have as losing 3 stone is really impressive and must have taken some will power, you’re built for running. Keep it up and prove them wrong.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Madsimmo]

Thank you I am running nor will I ever be put down about it again ..I will keep going because I enjoy it and I am fitter for it

[Jen58 in reply to Jullaly]

👍🏻 good for you Mrs

[Bridget007 Graduate]

Maybe they just said the words without engaging their brains first and didn’t mean to make you feel bad. I bet it has made you even more determined! Just keep going and don’t let the doubts sneak in ... you are doing really well 😊😊

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Bridget007]

Thank you, I have to admit when I first got home I did start to doubt myself but the support on here makes you realise we all have a journey in achieving this and I will do it. The positivity here is incredibly supportive

[Jen58 in reply to Jullaly]

Friends are People who support you ? Not mock You,

You are enjoying this 👍🏻

Don't give something up you enjoy 😊

[Hidden]

Very well done for losing 3 stone! That’s brilliant. And congratulations on embarking on c25k. You are right to be proud of yourself because you are making some big and positive changes. Maybe they’re a bit jealous of what you are achieving, which probably says more about their own insecurities than your potential as a runner. Prove them wrong!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Vangus, I am more determined than ever to prove them wrong

[Tbae]

Hi ,

Sorry for your experience.🤔🙈

Not surprising to me🤔🙈, unfortunately.I am afraid that is the reality of ignorance.🙈

I would suggest sincerely, do not take this issue on.🤔.

Let it go and concentrate on you and your gift of C25k to yourself.

No white charger needed to reign against this sort of ignorance.🤔

As a detail, and not connected, I would revisit your user name and drop the old.🤔👏👏

I think you can change it once.This is not a drama.🤔👏👏

Not essential either.🤔👏👏

This journey is all about you.🤔

You are vulnerable and your so called friends are not.🤔

Vulnerability is the most accurate measurement of courage.🤔

Asking for what you need takes courage🤔

You are courageous and courage is contagious.🤔

Do not divert your precious energies onto causes that cannot be measured and are indeed futile.🤔

Direct your energies only on you and stay focused on your shared goal with the C25k programme and forum.

Yes I can empathise this is hurtful to you.🤔🙈

But in the grand scheme of your ambitions it is trivia, and please try and view that way.🤔

I would speculate that this is never going to impact you, ever as much again.

Surround yourself with like minded people.🤔Not easy.🤔If that is not possible, just keep your dreams , precious with you and you have the complete support from HealthUnlocked.👍👏👏

You have heard on here about a life changing experience🤔 and unsurprisingly connecting with like minded people ,inevitably is part of that🤔

After all, the reason of our very existance is to connect , not just with like minded people but everyone.🤔🙈

Not easy.🤔 We are not here to judge , but to be judged.🤔

Enjoy this gift to yourself and love yourself, because you have chosen this and are courageous and worthy.🌟👏👏💫🏃‍♀️💫

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Tbae]

Thank you very much for your kind words, very meaningful. I will share my successes right here with the people who truly understand. I think I was just taken aback, I am just so thankful I have found Healthunlocked

[Tbae in reply to Jullaly]

Me to.🌟👏👏

Yes on your continuous improvement and continuous learning journey.🌟👏👏

Busy life building your running body and running brain.🤔🌟👏👏

Just like bees🐝.

Keep all the honey for yourself.🤔

Your friends will have to go and forage for their own.👍🤔🙈😂😂😂😂🌟👏👏

[veggiegirl1906]

I think that is unbelievably unsupportive of your friends!

I suspect they could be jealous, which is their problem not yours, so I wouldn't let it affect you.

Congratulations for getting up the courage to start this programme, it will definitely pay off.

Most importantly I think you should just do it for you and your own health rather than "showing your friends" who cares about them, this is for you!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to veggiegirl1906]

Thank you and well said, after all that is exactly what it is for, to improve my health, wellbeing and fitness.

[veggiegirl1906 in reply to Jullaly]

Exactly Your positive attitude is lovely by the way! And you will always have the support you need on this forum

[Hidden]

Don’t let them make you feel that way. It just puts things into perspective, your friends are supposed to support you through this not laugh at you. People like that make my blood boil. You go though a difficult transition to better yourself a your “FRIENDS” come along and take the piss. Don’t tell them anything, they don’t deserve to know and when you have made it to 5k ask would any of them like to join you for a fun run for charity and watch their faces drop. You keep going lovely lady we will support you, if you are feeling down talk to us and we will push you through and you will have the last laugh 😁

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much, I have actually signed up for a 'race for life' cancer research run. I will not be sharing my progress with them but I will prove I can do this

[Hidden in reply to Jullaly]

You go girl prove them wrong so they can shove their laughs up their arse😊💪🏼

[Razouski]

Of course you are built for running. You have two legs, don't you? Sounds like they are jealous...

We are all right behind you in here, and know that you can do this, so ignore the laughter and just stick with the programme. You'll show 'em.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Razouski]

I will show them and I am thoroughly enjoying myself. I will do this, thank you for your support

[Mummycav Administrator Graduate]

I am not clicking the ‘like’ button for this one...friends??? FRIENDS???? What kind of friends are they??? And what do they know??? Have they ever even heard of C25k??? Do they know that it is designed to get the majority of people who start it, running?? Huh...don’t listen to them, they prob laughed because there isn’t enough words in their vocabulary to describe how brilliant it is that you’ve even started the programme....this ought to make you even more determined to complete the programme, I know it would me...we are ALL behind you...you ARE built for running, you ARE capable of running & it will be you that had the last laugh x

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Mummycav]

Thank you and I am just so thrilled to find the support right here! I don't need that negativity. I won't mention it to them again until I have completed the 5K 'race for life' cancer research run and I will have the last laugh..more determined than ever!

[Mummycav Administrator Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

Abso-blooming-lutely....you will find so much support, advice, encouragement, kicks up the butt, but most of all experience....& I’m not talking about me, there are so many experienced runners on here willing to share their knowledge with us new runners....you WILL have the last laugh & we’ll all be laughing along with you x

[Hidden]

Stuff em!!! Stick with it and prove to them that, yes you are ready to run 👊🏻

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, and what an inspiration you are. I read your profile, I have lost 50lbs and using the C25K to increase by fitness, but most of I am really enjoying it and I will do this

[Hidden in reply to Jullaly]

Great weight loss, you should be proud of yourself for both the loss and taking on the c25k!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[Duddles Graduate]

My older friends, who I played football and trained with for years, continually call me stupid, that I should know better, should act my age etc. Most of them can hardly walk upstairs let alone run and I KNOW that deep inside they would love to be doing what I do. They hide their jealousy with bluster - otherwise how can they justify their own lack of effort? They are not being nasty, neither are your friends. They are just frustrated because they cannot do it. Your mission:- Get them off the Couch as well.......

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Duddles]

yes good point, I thought I may ask them to join me in a C25K group, thanks to Seasidepanda who inspired me to think of that.

[Seasidepanda Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

I just felt I wanted company, so I put a shout out on my local community FB page. I now have 90 people in the FB group, 10 of us or more are graduating over this week / next week, and a group of beginners started up this week. A lot of them have come knowing nobody, yet we are making friends and encouraging and motivating eachother. We now plan to keep with 3 half an hour runs each week, try park run and have social evenings together...definitely give it a go!

[Run-Granny-Run Graduate]

Hi Lady Runs ( I think you should ditch the “old” ...age is just a number!) 🙂

You are doing great and I am sure there are lots more people in your life who are very proud of your running. We are .

All the best

RGR

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Run-Granny-Run]

Thank you very much and actually how true that is. The family are proud. I have been inspired to sign up to a 5K race for life cancer research charity run by a very close family member who is going through his very own difficult journey through cancer. I can't believe the support everyone gives each other on here, all of you are a tremendous inspiration

[MrsPsycho Graduate]

Hey! I'm not exactly built for running either. Guess what? I still do! I used to care what people driving past me thought, now I don't care because I'm out in the fresh air and they're stuck in their cars. I'm running, I'm getting fitter.

I also ask myself "what does someone 'built for running' look like?" Anyone can run. Anyone.

And you're one of them. You rock so hard!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to MrsPsycho]

Thank you MrsPsyco I will do exactly that ..I will rock on ...

[MrsPsycho Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

Devil horns to you *rock pose*

[gwrunner18 Graduate]

So, are they all Olympic athletes? Marathon runners? I doubt it.

Keep at it, you’re the one taking small steps each run to get to the end goal

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to gwrunner18]

lol ..not one of them runs.. and I am loving the journey

[Tartiflette Graduate]

Those old friends are what my daughter would call "Frenemies" 😂

What a fantastic response here from all your running friends x

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Tartiflette]

Thats a great word for them .. the support on here is just incredible, it honestly has removed the doubts from my head. Thank you

[JoP61 Graduate]

I'm sorry but this has made me really angry. How dare they laugh at you when you have taken these extremely positive steps to lose weight and get fit! These are not friends in my definition of the word. You are an example to all of us. As for being "built for running", what a stupid comment. I'm a chubby girl with short legs, so does that mean I'm not built for running?? Sorry, the blood is boiling. Please keep posting here and let us know how you're getting on - we are all running with you. And stuff your "friends". xxxxx 😀👍👍💪

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to JoP61]

I have to admit, first I felt hurt, secondly I started doubting myself, so I posted on here and Im so pleased I did because thirdly, I became really angry but now I am just absolutely determined so thanks for your support x

[JoP61 Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

Of course you would have felt hurt - these "casual" comments can destroy you. But just look at the response your post has received!! All of us who are trying to attack our demons and get a bit fitter are behind you every step of the way. Don't doubt yourself - you can do it. Just take it nice and slow and steady, follow the programme, and you will do it. Always post on here to let us know how you're getting on and also if any problems - there are so many people on here with great expertise and experience. xxx

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to JoP61]

JoP61, thank you so very much, the old me would have curled up and given up but i am so inspired by the support. As you say so much expertise to draw on. I am so very pleased to find you all

[JoP61 Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

You're very welcome! Go girl! 😀🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

[ramsgaterunner79]

Don’t listen to them! Keep going. It’s how you feel about it that counts! They’ll be laughing on the other side of their faces when you’re fighting fit! 😁 x

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to ramsgaterunner79]

Thank you, I am absolutely loving it and has made me so determined

[sarah65]

As a species, we aren’t just built to run, we are biologically programmed to run. Think ‘fight or flight’ an automatic, physiological response where are bodies get ready to fight or run. That’s been in my mind from week 1 when I was filled with doubt and worried about being too heavy and having dodgey knees. At week 8 my body is stronger and my self esteem is much healthier. Don’t listen to negativity. You’ll make lots of new forum friends on here. All cheering each other on to reach our goals. It’s amazing xxx

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to sarah65]

I like that thinking and when I go out tomorrow I will think fight or flight .. well done getting to week 8, it is amazing here, no other words for it, incredible x

[thisfishcan Graduate]

Well you obviously are built for running, because you are doing it. You are doing amazing. Keep going, and do it for YOU

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to thisfishcan]

Thank you, you are so right, Im doing it for me, my health, my fitness.

[ancientrunner Graduate]

Take no notice. I have told this story before but when I got back from my first run of the programme, all bright red and sweaty my neighbour one side asked what on earth was I doing and I looked dreadful and must be mad. My neighbour the other side mentioned my running a couple of weeks later - having been told by first neighbour she'd seen me looking dreadful. Second neighbour then did the programme herself. First neighbour's husband told me to ignore his wife she was just lazy - she has since said a few times how impressed she is I do it. It has just become the norm to all of them.

Also!!! Was volunteering at Parkrun and the man I was with said he had been running all his life and 40 years ago you could a spot a runner from their build a mile off but now it just isn't possible as all shapes and sizes do it. Pop along to your local Parkrun and you will see what he means.

Don't let them put you off, deep down they admire you and they will just come to accept it's something you do. Good luck.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to ancientrunner]

Thank you, I will keep going and if the doubts in my mind crop up I will stick with the support right here, I will do this, thank you

[Couch-potato]

Your friends have been mean, even if it was said as banter, I can understand your being upset. Well , now you must keep going so that you get the last laugh, and you will get all the support you need on here!😊

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Couch-potato]

and thank goodness for the support on here, the old me would have believed them and I could have just given up but I've been out early this morning and the next run is in the bag!

[Couch-potato in reply to Jullaly]

Good, I'm so pleased for you, concentrate on you and think positive thoughts 😊😊

[mfamilias Graduate]

To be crude, you shouldn't give a f**k what they think. What kind of friend laughs at someone's effort, particularly when that person has already lost three stone? Maybe someone who suddenly feels a tiny bit inadequate and even threatened by your determination to succeed. Use it as fuel for victory rather than letting it get to you. You rock, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just for the anecdote, my entire family fell off their perches laughing when I told them I was starting this programme three years ago. They've apologized since, and I'm still running.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to mfamilias]

Thank you for that, I have a feeling their image of me is still of the old me and find it difficult to realise I've changed. You are right it has made me so much more determined!

[Mamabear5 Graduate]

Just echoing the others on here , keep going , at least you are up and doing something , when my ex is being an a**e i imagine as I'm running I'm stamping on his head , makes me move more ...

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Mamabear5]

lol ..I like your style!

[alikayV Graduate in reply to Mamabear5]

That made me laugh out loud!!

[WalkingWithLabradors Graduate]

More reason to show them they are wrong. 😡. Come on OLR let’s show em!!!!!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to WalkingWithLabradors]

We will indeed show them ..just how it is done thank you

[Kevthekelt Graduate]

Maybe they’re not real friends, otherwise they would be encouraging you x

[Kevthekelt Graduate]

Oh, and I forgot to say...go for it girl!! X

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Kevthekelt]

I'm going for it and loving it too, thank you x

[Beccym Graduate]

I have a friend that always says oh you do more of a fast walk. But I'd like him to come running with me to see if he could do it.

Be proud of your achievements, it doesn't matter if you back of the pack or in the front. In nine-ish weeks (my nine weeks was considerably longer) you'll be able to run 30 minutes without stopping.

People are idiots they don't mean to be but they are.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Beccym]

They can be, can't they, its strange that when someone is trying to make themselves healthier that people start trying to put that down, very odd ..

[Crucible]

Excuse me if I sound a tad harsh but if they are your friends why are they being so unhelpful. You are getting up and giving it a go and you should be praised for that. Well done you and keep going x

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Crucible]

Thank you and I will keep going, the support on here is all i need ..to see all the inspirational stories

[Richroux Graduate]

Don't be disheartened, keep going and do it for you and you alone. I started in the new year and was told I was a 'January runner', that was all the extra motivation I needed, I have recently completed the program after a long 12 weeks and now look forward to every run.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Richroux]

Thank you I have to admit I was disheartened, and some days when ive got a niggle in my foot or just generally thinking ..what am I doing?? I let their voices into my head! But then as you have said ive decided to make it the motivation I need just to get back out there

[Embles]

Some people are so negative. I get criticism for being overweight and when I try to do something about it I get told I will fail. It drives me mental. Don’t let them get in your head. Runners come in all shapes and sizes and ages. If you want inspiration watch ‘from fat to finish’ on Netflix. It’s amazing.

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Embles]

Thanks for that, I will look for that on netflix. How true you can't win, I get the same ..messages I should lose weight then when I try I'm told by various people ..well you've tried before you will fail

[Hidden]

Don't listen to a word they say! You've achieved so much already, so well done to your progress so far. They might be just jealous that you've had the motivation to do this challenge and they haven't. Show them how it's done!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Hidden]

I am determined to complete this programme, I will do this despite the negative voices

[Elfe5 Graduate]

How rude! Run on and their laughter will soon change to admiration- ‘cos you aren’t going to let them be right are you? ‘Course not! 😄

[Elfe5 Graduate in reply to Elfe5]

PS - I hope you ditch the “old” bit of your user name - you are several years younger than me and I don’t think that I am old! My 28-year-old daughter, who is a doctor, tells me that I am young! -Always good to know! 😄

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Elfe5]

Before I joined this programme I deemed myself too old to run, I am embarrassed that I even thought that now considering the amazing inspirational people, such as you on here ..i should ditch the old!

[Elfe5 Graduate in reply to Jullaly]

Looking forward to your new name when it arrives - you could make it a “graduation” celebration - something like Triumphantladyruns springs to mind - because you will be !😄

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Elfe5]

i like that ..run on their laughter ..i will remember that sentence when i run tomorrow

[Nam1111]

Not “built”for running?? Are they “built” for modelling! No but I bet that doesn’t stop them trying to take a selfie!

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Nam1111]

Lol thank you that’s just made me giggle ! I’m just about to go out the door to do wk3 run 2. I will have the last laugh

[Nam1111 in reply to Jullaly]

Yes you will! You go girl! You show them! You’ve got this!

[Vonnie63 Graduate]

Don't listen to them. I started last year at the age of 54 and not having the build to run. I have completed a few 5ks and a couple of 10ks and am about to run a half marathon at the end of May. I am as slow as a week in jail but I like you are out there doing it. Don't listen to anyone who is negative, you are doing this for you, and you only, enjoy it and reap the benefits. You will have the last laugh

[Jullaly Graduate in reply to Vonnie63]

Wow you are amazing, what a fantastic inspirational story. I am determined I will be on here having graduated cheering others on. Thank you

[Run-Granny-Run Graduate]

Well you are the one running , improving your health and fitness levels. So many benefits . You are the one who can laugh as you enjoy your self running 🤣😂🤣

Plenty people here cheering you on 🎉

[AliK0871 Graduate]

Go for it Mrs proof them wrong !!!!