To be happy again..

[Lanochka77]

6 months ago I had an accident. And now I am having a scar on my upper lip. I have to wear lipstick all the time I am out. Used to love my face. Now I am feeling not happy seeing myself in the mirror. 😔trying to get used to my new lips.

It did put my confidence down a lot.

I understand that I will never be the same, as I was before. It does upset me a lot. Trying to motivate myself to cary on living and be happy, but it is very difficult. Sometimes I am feeling myself in a bad dream and I will wake up one day. But bad dream it is a reality now.

If someone had the same please give advise how to become happy again.

Thank you.

[Cosmicgirl]

Hi lanocha77. I'm sorry to hear you are having a difficult time. Having to accept a facial difference is very difficult especially when we weren't born with it and get it when we're adults.

I am currently in the same boat as you. I have rosacea (an imflamatory skin condition that causes red blotches on your face, flushing and acne like pimples, joy!! 🙄 ) which got a lot worse in September. At first I felt exactly how you did. I got very depressed and could hardly get out of bed. I have found that through speaking to a professional and working with my GP, I have finally started to accept my difference.

The most important thing to remember is to be kind to yourself and realise your worth. You are worth more than your scar and just because you now have a scar you are the same person inside which is what matters. We are our own worst critics and often perceive our differences a lot more severe than anyone else. Surround yourself with the people who love you and try and hold your head high. I know it is hard but always remember your worth and I'm confident this difficult time will pass. 😊

[Lanochka77 in reply to Cosmicgirl]

Thank you ☺️😘

[Rees_Headley]

I was in a bad accident 4 months ago and I tore my face open and tore my lip all the way through from front to back and had to have 100 stitches all in. I have a lot of scarring in my lip as a result and it feels stiff at times and like you it doesn’t look like it used to. I’m getting used to it, I might need further plastic surgery to sort it out but too early to tell yet. So keep going, most people tell me it could I’ve been a lot worse and that they don’t really notice my face

[Lanochka77 in reply to Rees_Headley]

Thank you for your reply Rees.

I was visiting several professionals too. They cannot do anything till 12 months since the accident.

With myself permanent lips make up could help to cover the scar. Hopefully you will not need a plastic surgery. I hope you have people around to support you and love you.

Every day it is a big fight, that will make us stronger every day.😅

[AlwaysSmiling Community Ambassador]

Hi Lanochka77,

Getting past a tough time and trying to be happy again is really hard, I can tell you that from experience but I can also tell you that things will get better although it may seem impossible at times.

I find that the best way to cheer yourself up and get yourself feeling like the old you again is to surround yourself with positive things. Spend your time with people you love that make you happy, my family are always by my side throughout my tough times. Also, find a hobby or two to keep yourself busy, I play an instrument because music is another thing that makes me happy.

Unfortunately tough times exist and as much as I wish they didn't, they do, but I do believe that without them we wouldn't be the strong people we are today.

I really hope you get past this hard time soon, I'm sure you will! In the future you will be able to look back on this time and tell yourself that you are so amazing and strong so surely you will make it through anything else life throws at you!😊❤

[Lanochka77 in reply to AlwaysSmiling]

Thank you very much AlwaysSmiling for your kind reply. I can tell you have a beautiful heart.

I can not play musical instruments, 😝but I do like dancing, this why I joined the gym to do Zumba classes to switch my bad thinking.

Lovely that you have a family. Originally I am not from uk. I have only my 14 years old son whom keep me going. And whom loves me with any look.. always beautiful for him. 😊

I did invite my mum over Christmas and New Year time, from my home country. She is 79 and she does support me a lot.

I hope you are having a good time. Happy new year 🥳 and I wish your dreams will come through next year ❤️🎄🎉

[AlwaysSmiling Community Ambassador in reply to Lanochka77]

Thank you! Happy new year to you too! Best wishes for 2020!!!!🥳❤

[DolaChangingFacesUK]

Welcome to the Changing Faces community Lanochka77! It's good to know that you found us and have received some support from the amazing people here. Having a visible difference can indeed knock your confidence as you've expressed and it can be difficult (though not impossible) to find joy in living again. If you would like to know more about the services offered by Changing Faces to help with living confidently with a visible difference, do check out our website changingfaces.org.uk/ or contact our Support and Information Line on 0300 012 0275. Take care, Dola

[Renaldon]

Oh, girl. You have to love your face. A scar on your lip doesn't make you uglier. I'm sure the scar makes you unique. I've heard from a lot of people that they like my beard scar. I have had it since childhood. Because I was also complex because of this, for a while, I was thinking of removing it with the laser until a lot of people convinced me to leave it because it's what makes my face more special. I listened to them, and everything I do on my face is soft girl makeup, and that's it. So, my dear, you are gorgeous!

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