Yup weekend gone I sufferd Silant Heart Attack NOT caused by my dad but my own medical conditions
But trying to hold it together When shaky AND looking after my dad AM finding NOT heard really BUT do think gosh is going to end up killing me with stress so been trying to mitagate my stress levels following news ESPICSLLY as doctor Surgeon said itās most definitely going to happen again
Sorry to read of your heart attack, I strongly feel now that social workers and the medical profession need to look after your dad to give you time to recover and get back on your feet, I wish you and your dad well xx
Hi Jennymary Ad not trust any of them to look after a dog really let alone my dad.
Social worker is hiding as want to increase care package SO dadās not sore being bed bound AND still waiting for incontinance pads
Six months now
Bless you JAS itās all too much for you and you really need help. Your health is not great and the added stress is making things worse.
I hope you can find help for your dear dad as you really canāt struggle on like you are.
Thinking of you as always. Xxx
To be honest sassy itās not really dad Issue well apart from on one
Itās daft symtoms doing my head in TRIED getting pissed other day AND thatās not recommended after heart stuff
No Iām sure but it is stressful seeing your dear dad as he is. I just know your unwell yourself and doing your best for dad. I just hope you can find help and I wish you well with that. Xxxx
So sorry to hear JAS. It's small wonder that carers' health is in jeopardy, when you think of all that they have on their plates. Their own health is almost bound to suffer and you've just found that out the hard way.
It's hard to do, and I can see you have already said that you feel you can't let go of the reins in looking after your dad, but if this had turned out to be a fatal heart attack, your dad would have to have depended entirely on others, so here's your chance to stand back just a little bit over some of the caring issues, but still hopefully remain well enough to be in overall control of how others manage his care.
Thankfully you are still with us, but I do hope you'll still take care of your own needs as well as looking after your dad's. Very best wishes for a speedy recovery.
Hi Callendersgal have Seen first hand how agencies hospital manage dadās care and not liked what I seen .
If would of been fatal guess I would not of none nothing BUT was such easy road to go up ... but have been standing back and trying not get as stressed AND thatās near impossible with how it left me
My doctors have assured me THE donāt think am going to drop dead yet AND congestion is not Heart related
Dear JAS, I've been following your comments on here and agree with sassy59 and Hidden and if ,God forbid you were taken into hospital with either heart or lung issues,then dad would've been taken under the care of social services. As much as you have had bad experiences with them from the very start,this would be out of your hands if you were in hospital. I trust you know I'm saying this as 1) it is true and 2) maybe its time for you to have a plan B,so to speak,so you have all things in order and its you that has arranged the terms etc for your dad with the various services.
Something to perhaps think about my friend,especially when your health is not the best at the present time.
Sent with best wishes and love to your dad and yourself.
Hi SquirrelHolt yer this my mum at home AND we split Care for my dad THATs only way me mum could cope guess.
Dadās not well at all LAST time in hospital sufferd Multi Organ Failure was lucky to get him home
With out sounding horrible donāt think dad as much more really
But you never know he had tad more than I did weekend BUT given my issues makes me think more about how he must feel given heās heart issues THATs with out lung ones HE donāt get treatment for.
Dadās waiting to see diabetes nurse AND heart failure nurse GUESS be still all waiting when long gone
Hello Jeff,
So sorry to read that you had a heart attack Jeff. Didn't the Doctors keep you in hospital, then your Dad could have been taken care of while you recovered and had treatments etc for it. Are they going to monitor you now?. Sorry this is happening to you when you have looked after your Dad so well. Now you must think of yourself as well as your Dad because if you were taken ill again what would happen to Dad? So as hard as it is what about cutting yourself some slack and letting the health professionals look after you.
Wishing you all the best,
MAS Nurse & Moderator.
Hi Mas_Nurse
I use to have left anterior hemi block BUT now Hospital said itās lafb.
Something was shocked about DOCTOR surgeon looked me over and said Issue needs capturing on holter thing.
Am being referred to rapid cardiology for holter other test AM not having stress test AS itās my rotten luck ad not survive
As to dad is ok really as my mum hear AND usaly she sorts him out when he get out line ALSO have brothers that help on occasion
All I knew about heart attack was breathing palpitations and congestion CAN you belive hospital never done chest X-ray
I thought that was pretty standard but guess nothing is when comes to my luck
I donāt really know much about what went on but since took antibiotics not as bad AND back issue resolved
I think that ZOSK germ that lives in our spines might be culprit
Jeff, sorry to hear you are going through another bad time. You will have to look after yourself for a while so you can regain some strength to help mum & dad if thats what you would like. But afraid I agree with others the time as come to step back and let others do a bit of caring for your elderly relatives. Hope your tests go OK and you begin to feel better soon .
Hi Katie wish was ok really think am suffering more stress anxiety now
Donāt know if intermittent breathless is heart or stress KEEP telling myself if was serious hospital would kept me in
Anyway try not to focus on that and to be honest this only me mum really even tho Have carers comin SO donāt really know who else is
Spoke to dadās social worker about uping dadās care package but not sure heās budget covers it
Sadly the budget for home care is a bit low unless you are on low income and get it free . Your mum&dad are no doubt getting attendance allowance which is not enough to pay for proper care for someone in your dads health position. I still say take care of yourself as long as your parents are happy don't worry too much just consentrate on trying to get well and illiminate stress. Some doctors are suggesting a tipple at bed time to help relaxation can't be bad, why not give it a try for your stress. Speak again soon.
So sorry to hear that you have had such a frightening time with your own health. I think all the carers on this site will identify with your feelings of guilt and not wanting your beloved dad to have substandard care. You have experienced your dad being given less than adequate care and so I would imagine this has made you even more protective.
However, you really do need to look after your own health and I agree with the excellent advice you have been given by others, that perhaps now is the time to give yourself a bit of TLC and get some help for your caring role. I can't remember whether you have already contacted a carers organisation? They operate in most areas and also ageuk are very helpful I find, if I have any queries about benefits or where I should go to access other services. Sorry if you have already been down this road, but I was very worried for your health when I read your post. Caring for a loved one can be very rewarding but it can also be exhausting and detrimental to your own health. I wish you well and hope that you can have a bit of space yourself. Helen x
Hey there JAS! Well, u certainly know how to party huh? Ever thought about moving out of the home? Social services/continuing health would have no option other than to support mum n dad? Hide away in a pub for a bit maybe? Put yourself in respite so you get a break, care agencies can see to mum n dad, at least for a bit? They can stay at home then, as they want to n u get a rest to patch the heart up a bit before more damage jumps on board?
Daily, Have you spoken to the Alzhiemers Assassination because they are a god send.
Every case is very different, the carrers assassination an help to.
Whenās Enough Enough When It Comes To Social Care That Donāt Really Care.
Continuing saga
