Well Where Do I START Or FINSH

Dad’s been in hospital nearly month FOUND out he’s organ failure was heart trouble.

Few meetings later found out dad did not slip out of chair but fell out of hospital bed.

Car and compassion even basics in our NHS are in so much short supply

Dad can’t have iv fluids yet rather than give dad drinks to improve BP they lie someone flat with congestive heart failure heart failure.

Where do they find these so called HCP people.

Well the did TILL I walked in and kicked off EDERLY and heart patients ANYONE would think was trying to kill my dad AD not mind if was through kindness but sadly it’s worst type chronic neglect negligence and gov nhs new friend pneumonia.

Well today at one of many meetings about dad’s shocking hospital treatment or lack of ASWELL as shocking Care In community treatment or lack off

Hospital admited they could not surply leavel of care dad needs.

Like really giving someone food and a drink in hospital is like wonder drug Nice will not authorise prescribe

Ad not mind if dad was in cleaning cuberd BUT he’s on accure medical unit ward.

Anyone have any ideas how that work.

Clearly liability solicitor as put new spin on doctors nurses outh

Where if they do nothing the can not be accused of doing harm.

Picture is of dad’s hospital meal dinner or finger food WELL till I grabbed it out bowl and lashed it at door of ward

Would not stick to wall / door as was like toast

[sassy59]

Hi JAS, if the hospital have admitted they can’t give your dear dad the care he needs, what do they suggest? The food in the photo surely isn’t suitable?

You’re doing an amazing job caring for your dad. Thank goodness he has you. Xxxx

[Hidden in reply to sassy59]

Hi sassy as been farse and dad’s social worker WELL is quite useless.

The idea of help was to try move dad to ward with individual rooms guess so could truly suffer in isolation.

Isolating someone who is at risk of chocking AND falling out of bed NOT really what I recomend

It just shows how much Know About Alzheimer’s Dementia and care needed.

[sassy59 in reply to Hidden]

Your dad needs 24/7 care not a side ward. I hope things improve as they certainly need to. Take care xxxx

[Hidden]

Hi JeffAjaxSmith, that picture of your dad’s meal highlights the dreadful state of catering in many hospitals, for everyone. Last time I was an in-patient for a night or two, my husband saved me by bringing food from home and from the hospital branch of M&S. It shouldn’t be the case, but eating seems to be the last in line of the list of things in our hospitals that needs a complete investigation and overhaul.

Fortunately for your dad he has a real tour de force on his side, namely you. As always you are there for him to make sure his needs are met. As usual you are a hero, so no matter what’s going wrong for your dad, he knows you are always there for him, and that’s a wonderful thing.

[katieoxo60]

Calm down Jeff, sorry to hear you are having problems with Dads care again/ or as usual. Once again you need to complain just like me Jeff, it is often due to mental health diagnosis no matter how young or old. Some people don't even get a sandwich or drink. You made me smile , the one about a new code of practice don't do anything then you can't be accused of doing harm. Jeff please keep up the cause I just logged a complaint about mis prescribing at the bottom of the form it says your complaints are not wasted all feedback is used to im prove services. But that is not how it comes across to patients & families. I could have been killed with the latest mistake by my surgery and like you I am fuming and seeking legal advice as to my rights as it has made an existing illness worse after ten years of keeping it under control. Have to say the otherside of my experience is one of sorrow to think someone in a caring proffession would do this , but they do and I am sure some cases are not just accidental. Back to your dilemma, how do we get care thats not available or affordable? To admit they can't do it is fine but what is the option !!!!! We can keep fighting but its not getting us the care that is needed at ground level and unfortunately not all famlies can do the job either. In your Dads case he is entitled to ongoing NHS care not just social care. You are doing your best but I agree the powers that be seem to spend more on digital options rather than hands on care. Those brought up in the old system are not going to benefit from the new streamline digital care process, they need better facilities in their later life, till new ways are found & established. I could go on Jeff but you know like the stale sandwich our voices are hitting a brick wall. Wish I could change it for you truelly but I experience it and see it happen to others on a daily basis. Take care of yourself , life goes on and for you & I will no doubt change in the coming years. Every Best Wish

[Lynd]

This food is unacceptable. All I can suggest is find out where they think he can be looked after properly.

Completely agree about the side room. He needs to be in full view.

Can you take in some soup in a flask or other things you think he may eat.

Shouldn't have to happen in this day and age.

You are a good son. He would be proud of you x

[FredaE]

Whose dog did they steal that dinner from? Difficult to imagine a growing ravenous boy coming home from playing football being tempted by that let alone a fragile old man.

[Bella395]

I can’t make out from your post whether the hospital staff asked you to leave due to your behaviour. Is this the case? Did you actually throw the food at the door? If so, you should understand that the NHS has strict rules about aggressive behaviour and it is not tolerated. If all this is true, you might well find yourself banned from the hospital and then you will be of no use to your father.

The best way of helping him is to cooperate with the staff and assist wherever you can. I am a carer and my caree has an indifferent appetite. When he is in hospital I take food and drink from home as necessary. I am sure they wouldn’t mind if you did the same. He is a very ill man and possibly doesn’t have long to live. Let him have what he wants and likes.

You should remember that the staff are very hard pressed and there are other patients to attend to besides your father. They will try their best but it is always useful if family and friends can assist. Calm down because you are not helping the situation at all with your attitude.