I wasn’t sure whether I should put this post on here or not, but here goes.
I completed my Race at Your Pace 50 mile December challenge today, but it’s been a tough conclusion to it and I was glad to finally complete that last 4k.
My mum sadly passed away Christmas Eve and grief certainly knocks the wind out of your sails and saps your energy. Tinytears60 aka Jane said do it for your mum and I thought that’s a lovely way to think about it.
I’m so glad I found running and this forum. I did a 10k run on Boxing Day, which took my mind off things, helped me focus on something different for a short time and actually helped lift my spirits a little.
Lets hope 2021 brings us a much better and happier year for us all
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You have achieved a lot this year with your running and I'm glad you got this to focus on. Sad news and I'm sorry and yes let's hope 2021 is a lot brighter🤞xxx
Oh CP, I’m so sorry to hear about your Mum. 🙁 And on Christmas Eve too.
It’s nice to hear that you were able to channel your grief with a 10k on Boxing Day. Time just for you and a chance to remember quietly. ❤️
I lost my Mum in October 2019 and running helped me no end. Be kind to yourself for the next few weeks, or as long as it takes. Let your runs just happen, and don’t place expectations upon yourself. Run for you and your lovely Mum.
So sorry to hear about your mum. Its an awful time. Your running will certainly help you through. I lost my dad in February so I empathise. Stay strong and keep running. Remember though its ok not to br ok too! Take care x
I'll be glad to see the end of this year too. It's been awful in so many ways, especially the last couple of months. The only good thing to have come out of it has been this new activity and the new friends we have found here.
So, so sorry to hear this Couchy 😪😪😪 It is so very cruel and hope that you are able to manage "OK". I cannot imagine the grief but I am sure it is very painful.
So glad you found this page too, we have helped each other in so many ways and hope this and running can help you through these toughest of days.
If there is anything we can help with, please shout up 🤗
Take care of yourself and run for yourself when it feels right for you. Well done on getting out there when I am sure you would of preferred to just live in a cave. Much respect to you. Take care Xx
I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you. I’m glad running has helped to give you another focus at this difficult time. Well done on completing your running challenge, 50 miles in December is an awesome achievement.
Take things one day at a time, take care of yourself, run if the mood takes you, we’re here if you need us my friend. Here’s to a brighter 2021
Oh I’m so sorry about your mum. My mum passed away 27 years ago...on Xmas day. I’ve never felt the same about Xmas since. It will feel very raw at the moment, so well done on getting out there and running.
I can promise you that your grief will ease over time and you will laugh again as you think of the good times and fond memories you have of your time together.
I’m here if you want to DM me ❤️❤️❤️
I am so sorry to hear that. You are in our thoughts. X
Sending my condolences to you and your family at this sad time.
What a great way to remember your Mum by completing your challenge. She will be rightly proud of you. Running is a good way to get some thinking and you time and hopefully will give you some comfort in this sad time.
So sorry for your loss, tough times, especially at this time of year. Hopefully running will continue to give you that mental break and that welcome respite from the grief. Take care x
Very sorry for your loss, but well done for completing the run for your mum. I lost my mum about 14 months ago so I know how you are feeling. During that immediate time I made myself go out running and I found it helped a lot as it just gave me some time to myself to think and to quietly remember. Look after yourself at this time and as you say hopefully 2021 will be much better for us all.
Really sorry for your loss Couchphoenix and at Christmas too. I hope the running helps you through this extremely difficult time. Plus you have loads of support on here too.Thank you for sharing.
So sorry for the loss of your dear Mum, Couchphoenix and glad to read that your run helped in some small way. Be kind to yourself, run when you can - rest when you need to. x
Thank you for sharing this sad news with us. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, it’s so difficult at any time to loose your Mum , but at Christmas it seems even worse as can be such an emotional time anyway.It’s lovely that you dedicated your run to her, I think several of us do this and find it helps.
Take good care of yourself and take time to grieve.
Hi Mister So proud of you for getting out there to tick off the last couple of km’s at such a heartbreaking time 💔... I’m hoping it gave you some time and space to lose yourself in your private thoughts and for you to recall some special memories of your Mum
Like I said - that medal will be so very precious to you and will carry huge sentimental value.
Take time for yourself, be kind to yourself and remember you have all your running family on the forum to lean on - we all care!
Sending you huge hugs at such a sad time 🤗 Losing a parent is tough and there is no handbook on how to deal with it... it’s hard at any time but somehow Christmas makes it harder- Life is very cruel!
Do it your way, in your time - Here when you need us Mister so reach out any time... but most importantly take time for yourself 💙
I'm so sorry to hear your news. Running helped me through my own grief, just be careful not to overdo things as your body does need some extra tlc too. Well done on achieving your goal, I'm sure your Mum is still rooting for you too 💖
So sorry to hear about your mum - well done for getting out and running. Be kind to yourself. Take heart from this community. Thinking of you at such a sad and stressful time. 🤗
So, so sorry to hear about your mum CP, and right before Christmas like that. I can't imagine how hard that must be.
How fortunate we are to have running in our lives though and I am glad you found some solace and comfort in that Boxing Day 10k. And how wonderful to dedicate completing your 50 mile challenge to her. She would be very proud.
Take time out, run when you feel like it, and we are all here if you need us.
So sorry to hear your sad news. I'm glad you are finding running helpful- it certainly keeps us all both physically and mentally healthier. Take care of yourself, remember the good times. 🤗
I'm so sorry CP. Your determination to run those last few kms would make your mum proud. Take care of yourself, one day at a time xx
I am so sorry to hear of your mothers death. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling but glad that running brought you some comfort. It’s an awful time of year and it must be difficult for you. Sending you warm thoughts and prayers. Keep up the running.
So sorry for your loss, CP. It's a heart breaking time. I know it's corny but time does heal. My mum died 32 years ago but she is forever in my heart. May your mum be forever in your heart too x
Oh no Couchphoenix, that’s such sad news. So sorry for your loss. We lost my dad just before Christmas 2 years ago and it’s been a tough time.
I’ve found running and support from this community such a help in getting through it.
I’m sure your mum would understand you going for a run to help your mental health. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and support from friends and family (and of course on here) if you need it.
Yes, we must all hope for a better year in 2021. Best wishes to you and your family in these difficult times. My thoughts are with you.
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news Couchphoenix. I'm sure your Mum would be so proud you and your running achievements these past months, and amazed to hear all the support you have from this forum. So run for your Mum and run for yourself, and remember you have many VRBs here who are sending you love, support and kindness through this tough time.
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum Cp, losing a parent is always tough but especially so at Christmas - my father died early Boxing Day morning 4 years ago and Christmas will never be quite the same again. But I’m glad you were able to get some comfort from getting out and running - and I’m sure your mum would be proud of what you’ve achieved!
So sorry to hear about your mum, it is such a tough thing to go through. Do give yourself time to grieve as so easy not to. Hope 2021 is a good year for you.
Couchphoenix, I’m so very sorry to hear about your mum, my heart goes out to you.
It is a great thing that you are able to find a little solace through running. No doubt your mum has been extremely proud of all your achievements this year.
There are no right/wrong feelings going forwards, take your time in every regard and do whatever feels right for you day to day.
Should you want to reach out, your online running crew are never too far away, all in the hope of offering you a little comfort.
I'm just catching up on VRB'S posts after a month spent hibernating, struggling with depression CP and wanted to send my best wishes to you although very belatedly. Hope you're doing ok and looking after yourself. Very sad for you- I lost my father in August- the running has really helped - time to process and get those endorphins doing their magic. A good cry helps on occasion too. Sending virtual hugs 🤗 take care of yourself
Thank You Littleoyellow, I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with depression and to hear of your sad loss. I’m ok, although grief comes over you in waves. It was mums funeral last week and it was a huge relief that it went off ok, although a funeral with the Covid restrictions is a strange limited affair. Mums neighbours and friends, some quite elderly gathered in the street when the funeral cortège arrived, to pay their respects, which was nice and I managed to stand up in the crematorium chapel and read the eulogy I’d prepared.
The running has helped me a lot and given me something else to focus on. And as you rightly say a good cry does help from time to time. You take care too 🤗
Thank you for your kindness CP 😁🤗 I'm finally on the upswing in terms of mental health atm. My father's funeral was restricted to 16 people- enough for close family only, but went as well as could be expected for the circumstances. You did your mum proud with the eulogy, and you should be really proud of yourself for paying tribute to her in such a way. I'm sure she was beaming and sending you a big pat on the back and a huge hug. Support always here for you 🤗
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