Struggling

[Hanfel]

Haven’t run in over 2 weeks as trying and failing miserably to conceive second child. Feel like have lost my running mojo. Anyone else been through this? Xxx

[Grannyhugs Graduate10]

Poor poor you, I took a number of years to conceive my 1 and only daughter, as another didn’t turn up we contented ourselves with 1. It’s a sad time waiting every month. Do talk to those around you about what you are going through - it’s tough putting on a brave face all the time. As for running, the health benefits physically and mentally are really worth it especially as you enter long dark winter months. Challenge yourself to do a happy run, it doesn’t matter how long in time or distance it is. This is a run for you not for breaking records or reaching targets. Take care and happy running 🤗

[Hanfel in reply to Grannyhugs]

Thanks will try. Do you mind me asking at what point you contented yourself with just 1? Finding it hard to accept to be honest.

[Grannyhugs Graduate10 in reply to Hanfel]

I think it was when daughter was about 3 and we realised we could just jump in the car and go and do anything while all my friends with new babies were still packing bottles, high chairs, travel cots etc. She had a very happy childhood able to attend lots of activities as we weren’t being pulled in different directions. She was also totally brilliant around adults as we just took her along on everything we did - this has stood her in great stead as an adult, very mature in a work environment. Now of course she is a mother herself and I must say being granny to my 8month old grandson is the most amazing experience. I hope this helps a little bit 🥰🤗

[Hanfel in reply to Grannyhugs]

I love this thankyou xx

[SlowLoris]

You must be very busy trying to conceive if you haven’t had time for a quick run.

[Hanfel in reply to SlowLoris]

More a case of not running during the two week wait. Thanks though made me laugh.

[Dexy5 Graduate10]

You are not alone Hanfel. Is there a health unlocked forum on this subject where you can share your concerns with others.

This is an an article written by someone close to me, which may be of interest.

harpersbazaar.com/uk/beauty...

[Granspeed Graduate10]

🥰 Good for you for airing this, Hanfel, and I hope the replies can help both the running and the misery. I watched my sister go through this (many years ago - we are the grandmas now). She wanted 2 children quickly and After 4 years finally they gave up and came away for a long holiday, and ... boom! Not suggesting you give up, but just that sometimes there are a lot of unpredictable factors.

Much, much later my niece let drop that she had so much enjoyed the 5 year gap with her brother that she planned to space her children the same way. And she did. Meanwhile, I hope you find a way to enjoy your running. It is great for stress relief, which I’m sure you need. Take care. 💕

[Lizzog in reply to Granspeed]

There’s five years between my two and they get on really well. In the end I had ivf with my second after ttc for years. I can really identify with this - it’s very hard - sending hugs 🤗

[GoGo_JoJo Graduate10]

Not really something I can relate to, however the physical and mental benefits of even a very short run surely would help your body to relax and let nature do its thing? Maybe even go further... run together, find a romantic corner somewhere and end up with a baby called Fern...? Or similar 🤞🏻👍🏻😉

[SlowLoris in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Or Bramble or Sandy.

[Scruff55 60minGraduate]

I can identify with this it took me four years to get my second child we had nearly given up and had explored adoption only to be told we were too old ( I was 33 and husband36!!) when I found out I was pregnant again. Maybe by accepting possibility of not being able to have second child I relaxed and took the pressure off myself we’ll never know but my two children get on really well even though there is a 4 year gap.

Maybe use your running to relax and then see what happens. 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️