Abortion

[Rosesandpetals]

I found out I am pregnant and am estimated around 7 weeks, im having to terminate the pregnancy as me and my partner financially and physically aren’t ready for a baby. I’m sad because this is what I want but just not now. I’m having a consultation tomorrow morning but I’m not sure what to expect? How long will I be waiting to get the abortion? Do I see the scan? Is there a heart beat? How much pain will I be in? Is there any help offered after such as counselling?

[jenna01]

I know it’s a difficult decision for anyone so I hope you are ok? I’ll try to answer your questions, I had a termination 7 years ago (my ex partner was abusive and the thought of raising a child with him was the push I needed to end things) again not an easy decision. Things may have changed! So I went to PAS and they are lovely there, did a scan (the monitor is facing away from you so you can’t see it and whether or not there is a heartbeat), booked me in for the operation 4 days later. Not sure if you have opted for medical or surgical management but timeframes will be different. Surgical management didn’t hurt for me at all, I had diarrhoea afterwards for a day but that’s probably due to antibiotics they give you, had a little cramping and a day or 2 of bleeding but this can go on for several weeks all perfectly normal. There was no formal follow up but you can see your gp if you feel you need counselling afterwards - I think I was lucky in that I spent 3 weeks going over varying scenarios in my head of if I could make it work, do I want to do this, and each one ended badly so I was very sure of my decision and had no regrets afterwards. the few friends and family I told were also very supportive and despite being reluctant to tell them initially I’m glad I did as they were with me the whole way. Write down a list of questions you want to know and take them with you to your appointment as you won’t be in the frame of mind to remember everything when you get there - it is nerve wracking and scary but the staff are fab and seriously will look after you so well. Feel free to message me if you like if you have any other questions but just bare in mind it was a long time ago for me so I’m not sure what the process is these days! Good luck and hope all goes well for you x

[H305]

I'm worried that you feel you have to have an abortion when you say you are sad and want a baby. Make sure you think through your choices so there are no regrets, all the best x

[Gia_9]

It's definitely a difficult decision for you .... being a woman. But then oops baby will only grow up in resentment and it's wise if you'd take the call in time. At 7 weeks you probably will hear a heartbeat but it's best not to think about it for now and don't even try to look at the UCG when you're being scanned. I think you'll need a DnC because after 5 weeks they do not prescribe metformin and misoprostol for the pill-induced abortion. Stay strong!