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abortion confused and scared


i found out i was pregnant a couple of weeks ago I've chosen to have an abortion, i have my consultation tomorrow I've researched as much as i can online but i still feel like i have absolutely no idea whats going to happen, i never write on message boards or have a presence online but i feel so alone in this and i desperately need some advice about what will happen, can anybody help please?

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Hi there

I am sorry to hear of your situation and that you feel so alone. Try not to worry too much all staff at any abortion service are fully aware of how scared you feel, but you will be treated with dignity and respect.

You could look at these videos that will help you to know what to expect - youtube.com/watch?v=VEQPo07... .

You won’t have to do anything more than have a consultation tomorrow if that’s what you choose.

All through the process it will be what you want to do.

I hope it goes ok tomorrow.

Best wishes



I have had an abortion a couple of years ago (due to rape).

I had to take a pill the day before and then another on the day.

If that is the way your going then you will pass the foetus the natural way.

And you will need to stay in hospital until your wee is clear (not pink anymore from blood).

I advise you strongly to stay until that is gone and when you have a clear wee to stay until your next one is clear to.

I went home after 1 clear wee but then kept having bleeding (like my period) for 4 more months.

I hope this helps you a bit.

Btw, I was 27 weeks, and it isn't painful physically

I had an abortion about 18 years ago when I was 15 and it was very hard to deal with at the time, did I do the right choice etc. I had no therapy and no-one to talk to and I still haven't forgotten about it, but am moving on with my life now, married to the right person (not the boyfriend from that time) and with 2 young children. I now know it was the right thing to do, but I will do my best to ensure my children never have to go through it if I can. Have strength and be prepared for possible tough times ahead but know that it will get better, one day.

Hi hun , I am in the same situation and i have to tell u no matter with hiw many people you talk to u will still feel alone in all this . its scary and hard but if u feel its the right thing in your heart u can do it . U have to stay strong and follow your plan . U only know whats best for u . My appointment is next week and i am so scared but i know that itz the right thing to do as i cant cope with a baby and my 2 year old . Many things are under concideration and its easy for others to say you sre doing the wrong thing but u stay true to yourself and dont let others put you down . I went to see my Gp to get it all organized and she was so disrespectful aand told me ' may be best to tive it for adoption' as she can decide for me . hope it all goes ok for you and u are treated with respect same as everyone deserves .

I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that with your gp, thank you so much for your advice.

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