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Afternoon all,

So after the last 4 months recovering from heart attack I've shared a few tears with my daughter. Me and her mum separated when she was just 2 years old. This year she celebrated her 18th birthday. Although I have tried to be a good dad and involve myself in her life I worry a lot on missing out on so much already. Yesterday she bought me this T Shirt and I realised that she shares my amazing sense of humour and if that's the only thing I did teach her then I can live with that as it should take her far.

I return to work tomorrow for the 1st time since HA so a bit anxious but just wanted to tell someone and I thought you guys would listen!

You normally do!!🤞♥️

Thanks

Jim

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080311

Hi Jim I did wish you a happy birthday I hope you had a great day.

That tee shirt is classic, and gave me a big grin when I saw it. From what you say you have a lovely daughter and you must have had some input into her up bringing, so don’t be hard on yourself give yourself a pat on the back.

Best wishes Pauline

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to 080311

Thanks Pauline. I've had a wonderful day. Just got a little emotional earlier. I think its allowed all things considered♥️

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It’s certainly allowed, I think we can all get emotional sometimes, we have come through our heart issues or we are still on that journey to get a mended heart. I think we are allowed, and you with changing wedding dates as well have had yet more pressure. So a bit of emotion is definitely allowed 😉

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to 080311

I'm lucky to be able to talk about it here and know that others are going through the same or have been through the same♥️

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Yass_123

Wishing you very happy birthday and many more to come just out of curiosity if don't mind me asking what is your job your posts give me encouragement and especially since ur symptoms similar to mine take care have lovely day

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to Yass_123

Thanks Yass...I am a Wash Man. I work for Caterpillar and I clean all their Plant Machinery. Would be a massive coincidence if we both had the same heart condition and Job!🤣♥️

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No chance of the job I just about do housework haha

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Thanksnhs

Best birthday 🎂 wishes and good luck for tomorrow char

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Thanks Char x♥️

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Thanks Jo will try and rectify this♥️

Happy birthday Jim, to you and your daughter! I have two girls myself and am especially conscious about being a positive male role model. Looks like you’ve done a great job and there’s a lot of love there.

Good luck for tomorrow. You’ll be fine I’m sure, but do watch the pace and I hope you have a supportive team around you. I was pleasantly surprised at how quickly it felt normal for me. Do let us all know how it goes.

Cheers

Nick

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Thanks Nick. I think she absolutely idolises me! Like me her! Still worry though ..guess I wouldn't be a Dad if I didn't worry about my Child though! Fingers crossed for tomorrow....hope it's as easy as you make it sound... after an hour I will probably feel like I have never been away!

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Magicfairy

Hi Jim hope you’ve had a good day🥳, and good luck tomorrow, take it easy x

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Thank you ever so much had a great day and now panicking about work!

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Smileyian

Great T shirt and lovely post. May I wish you a very happy birthday Jim from Singapore and hope your return to work goes smoothly. Please don't argue with that heavy plant machinery....wash them tenderly ! Take good note of the professional advice you have been given and enjoy a long and happy life.

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to Smileyian

Thanks ever so much. Never had a happy birthday from Singapore! Very satisfying! Plant Machinery is not to be argued with! Survived my first day back... here's to many more!.🥂♥️

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Fynndog

Hi Jim. What a lovely post. Here’s hoping many long years enjoying a few laughs with your daughter. Good luck with going back to work and must if all your very Good Health

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to Fynndog

Thank you. Glad you enjoyed the post and thanks for the well wishes ♥️

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jowalk6

Hope you had a great day Jim, love the t-shirt. Its hard when a relationship breaks up and there's kids involved. I divorced from my two older boys dad. Through the years I've felt guilt even though it wasn't my fault for the break up. I've worried when I couldn't give them as much as other kids, and worried I would be enough. Now they are 25 and 23 and both engaged to lovely girls and have left home. They have both thanked me for being a great mum and making them the people they are today. Keep talking to your daughter and sharing. Your doing a great dad job. Enjoy those moments hun x

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to jowalk6

Thanks. That's so nice that both your boys appreciate all you have done for them and glad they are doing well♥️

Congrats on the return to work after recovering from a heart attack and the birthday.

In respect of your daughter, she is old enough now to talk to you, listen to you and understand why her mother and you did not work out. If she has your sense of humour, she will also have your ability to listen and reason. She will have some of her mother in her - so some of her behaviour might annoy you (😉 both my daughters do!) - but enjoy the experience and see what it goes.

Don't try to judge yourself for past events, you can only apologise and make things better if you want them to be. Your daughter is talking to you and seeing you - what more could you ask?

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Spoken like a seasoned pro! Thank you. It makes perfect sense

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Billy_Bedstead

Brilliant T-shirt, hope your birthday and your first day back went fabulously. It can be a bit of a rollercoaster with one's emotions.

Love the photo and reading your story. I've got 2 kids, boy 20 and girl 23: communications can be.... interesting.

Thanks for making me smile with your brilliant post

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jmpond90gmailcom in reply to Billy_Bedstead

Thank you. Certainly relate to the emotional rollercoaster. Glad I made someone smile today. I think that's mission accomplished for today ♥️👏

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Billy_Bedstead

Make sure you look after you too 😉

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Thank you. I'm trying🤞

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