Recently bereaved

[TraClo]

Hi my husband died nearly 4 weeks ago and on Monday it will be the first day I will be alone as family and friends will be going back to their own lives. I’m scared . I lived with my husband for 32 years he was my world x

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello TraClo A very warm welcome to our Community.

I’m so sorry to read of the loss of your dear husband.

This a a real shock for you and I completely understand that you feel scared. This is the time when I hope you’re friends and family will keep in close contact with you and just be around when you need them.

Please don’t feel afraid to ask for help from them if you need it and we are always here for you too.

It will take time and many adjustments but it is very early days for you. Your emotions will be all over the place right now and that is is to be expected, we’re here for you.

Chloe >3

[TraClo in reply to chloe40]

Thank you I do feel like it’s not real x

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to TraClo]

You are so right TraClo It really does feel unreal and that’s difficult {{{ hugs}}}

<3

[TraClo in reply to chloe40]

Thanks

[Bigneil1]

Sending love xx

[TraClo in reply to Bigneil1]

Thank you

[kenster1 Volunteer]

hi welcome to the forum so sorry to hear about your dearest husband god bless him yourself and all the family.

[TraClo in reply to kenster1]

Thanks

[Caza]

It must be so hard for you, such early days. I hope as Chloe says that your friends & family stay close & support you. My friends husband died three years ago now having been married for over 30years she has found it incredibly tough. Be kind to yourself. Take care. Big hugs x

[TraClo in reply to Caza]

Yes I feel lost x

[Caza in reply to TraClo]

Yes you will. It must be like losing one of your arms. I don’t know if it helps but you will learn to live in a different way & the pain of missing him will ease.

It’s such early days for you don’t expect too much of yourself x

[Climb007]

Dear TraClo please accept my sympathy at the loss of your beloved Husband RIP.As Caza says above time will help. I know it sounds clinched.

I am in recovery from the loss of my only child and can confirm time has helped me cope.

Sending you hope and support.

Xmary

[TraClo in reply to Climb007]

Reaching out to me when you have so much sorrow is remarkable thank you x

[Caza in reply to Climb007]

That is brutal. I’m so sorry to read this. No words really. Take care virtual hugs x

[RoseyViolet]

I'm so sorry for your loss.... I understand. Grief is a journey, and thankfully it is also a season. Just like the passing of regular seasons, each one has it's drudgery as well as beauty in the midst of the muck. BUT... as with the passing into the next season, there are "growing pains" that naturally occur as the new season begins. Give yourself space and time and ability to feel, to mourn, to celebrate life and then to begin to live out the new normal one step at a time. Some days set you back, some days you feel just okay and then one day you'll wake up and realize your heart is slowly mending and you're able to breathe just a little bit easier. Grief waves will still come, let them, give them space and time and then take another step. It's gonna be okay. You will be better able to understand others who experience this pain into the future. Deep breath. Breathe. Take a step forward.

[TraClo in reply to RoseyViolet]

Thank you x

[GoGo_JoJo]

So very sorry for your loss.

Just do what you can, take each day as it comes, try not to expect too much from yourself or to second guess your grief. Every feeling you have is perfectly valid even if it seems a bit out of context.

If you can, try to get some daily exercise, even just a walk around the block. Fresh air and movement helps. 💖

[TraClo in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Yes I will walk and thank you x

[Saki-Amamiya]

I am so, so sorry to hear this has happened. I'm only 28, but a great fear of mine is investing that much of your life in someone and then suddenly being without them. I started reading this book after a devastating breakup (that felt like a death, in truth): It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine.

Would recommend if you think reading is something that works for you. All the best ✌️

[TraClo in reply to Saki-Amamiya]

Thank you I will check it out

[Ddorne]

I’m so sorry. Take it one day at a time. I’m not married. I lost my best friend 10 years ago, that was hard but not as hard as your situation. Do you have a therapist? Reach out to them. Praying for you

[TraClo in reply to Ddorne]

Thank you for your kindness

[spykey]

Being You is Ok even on days when you think its not

Hi TraClo

My deepest sincere sympathy for your loss.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs & Blessings

Spykey🕊🐈 xx

[TraClo in reply to spykey]

Thank you