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How to cope with a death of someone close
Hello FearIsALiar
Grief and how we cope tends to be different with each of us but I will tell you how I coped and hope others members with add how they coped to it for you<3
I tended to shut myself away to cope with the shock, we can't believe what's happened so we often refuse to believe it initially, on reflection I think that wasn't such a good idea, I needed to be with family members or close friends.
Yes, I even denied to myself it was happening but have since learned denial is natural. I only came to terms with it after the funeral. After this point, I should have accepted the offers of friendship and support which I didn't unfortunately.
I was also very angry that such a thing could happen in front of my eyes and actually in my arms, and that too is something we have to express, but I feel my frustrations and anger were taken out on my close family . In hind sight, I should have used my pillow to thump and have yet another cry to try to alleviate the feelings.
More later
How are you coping?
<3
FearIsALiar
I think I seemed to have overlooked most of the steps of grief and seemed to get stuck on anxiety and depression until I found acceptance but here’s some tips that may be helpful.
When you are grieving, you need to make time for feeling the emotions that arise, whether they are anger, sadness, or pain. Don’t judge these emotions as good or bad and it’s okay to feel like this. You may even create a little ritual where you spend time with the picture of your loved one and that’s okay.
Friends sometimes get uncomfortable around grief and if they ask ‘if there’s anything they can do’ which often happens, just say you’d appreciate someone to just sit there with you for a little while, good friends will be happy to, just having someone there is enough.
It’s important to try and stay healthy during this time, I know you’re not likely to want to eat well, but do try, pop out for a short walk too.
Be true to yourself, do what makes you feel calm and comfortable, a little exercise, warm bath, comforts that help relax you.
I made a memory box and decorated it, you can put your photos and little knick knacks inside, keep it close by and go through it when you need extra comfort. I kept mine under my bed.
I eventually allowed myself to think about other things but did feel guilty at first, so I allowed myself a certain time each day to reflect about my loved one and I found that really helped.
When you’re a little stronger, think about volunteering, it can’t be underestimated, it was the best thing for me, it helped me think of other things.
Chloe <3