Dads Birthday. In denial

[Jodz]

So Tuesday 2 nd April will be my Dads 90th . I posted here a few weeks back about struggling with my dad dying on the 4 th Jan 2019 . Since dad has died and he is buried next to Mum , I have not been to his grave . My problem is I’m not excepting dad has died . I talk about him , I talk to him , I ask for a sign that he has died . So my problem is that dads plaque is now on his grave and family want to go there Tuesday and have a beer with him . But my anxiety is getting higher about going . The last few days I’m constantly asking dad to tell me he is gone . Far out I feel I’m going crazy . I just need help and advice . It’s surreal 😥

[terriltwin2]

I know how painful it is to lose a loved one. It just makes you feel like you are walking and talking under water. Everything is heavy. It has not been very long since your dad died. Shock may still be in play for you. Please know it is ok to grieve. It is ok to face the deep pain you are feeling. You need to take time to grieve this loss. Grief is a process, its like it goes in a perfect circle. Sometimes, even moment by moment you feel different stages and feelings of your grief. Just please know it is ok not to be ok. I am sure your dad is looking over you and his spirit will live on for you. Remember, God truly knows your pain and he is catching every tear you cry and gently wiping them away. Through the tears, you will heal and grow. Like watering a garden, eventually it grows into this beautiful array of flowers. I am going to leave you with something to read. Just have quiet time and process everything that is going on. God will guide you. bit.ly/2TLNFiE. Praying for you.

[Jodz in reply to terriltwin2]

Thankyou 😘💔

[Celtic27]

Hi jodz I'm sorry for your loss but believe me when I say I understand how your feeling I lost my mother years ago but I still talk to her she will always be in my heart I have a picture of her opposite me and I find esp when I'm emotional that I sit and talk to her as if she was here! Try talking to your dad as if he's there with you remember the good times you had together! Believe me if your thinking of your father then he's in your heart and he will be looking after you! I hope I've helped in some way take care david

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Hello Jodz , it really is a relatively short time since your dear Dad passed away. It can take quite some time to accept a loved one has died. Talking to and about your Dad is healthy and a natural part of grieving, so keep on talking. I still talk to my partner and he passed away over four years ago.

I understand you are anxious about visiting your Dad's grave with other family members on Tuesday. Do you feel able to say that this is making you anxious. Do you feel ready to visit your Dad's grave right now. Do you have to go. Jodz it is important that you do what you feel is right for you at the moment.

I wish you well, take care,

Lottie x