Struggled a lot over the last 10 months since my lovely dad died, turns out i get great comfort from holding his ashes, i touch the urn and say hi to him when i go to my mums. So after a lot of back and forwards thinking and discussing this, i decided id like a paperweight and some of my dads ashes put into it. Huge huge decision as it meant disturbing him, but i know he would be happy with this as its something i need, my mum and siblings have not said they want anything like this, this is purely for me. So yesterday i went to a lovely glass art company in the scottish borders and ordered one, my wee mum then producied a small glass box with some of dads ashes in it, she had known it needed to be done so did it to save me any further anxiety, tbh i was going to get a neighbour to do it.
Feel like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders, ill always have a bit of my dad with me, and it also means we can scatter his ashes when/if my family want to, we cancelled an original day where we were doing that at my request, so i kind of feel everyone's being held back for me.
Has anyone else done this type of thing? I know a few folk with jewellery with ashes in them, id considered that but was scared id lose it.