Just ordered a paperweight with my dads ashes in it.

[Loulouella]

Struggled a lot over the last 10 months since my lovely dad died, turns out i get great comfort from holding his ashes, i touch the urn and say hi to him when i go to my mums. So after a lot of back and forwards thinking and discussing this, i decided id like a paperweight and some of my dads ashes put into it. Huge huge decision as it meant disturbing him, but i know he would be happy with this as its something i need, my mum and siblings have not said they want anything like this, this is purely for me. So yesterday i went to a lovely glass art company in the scottish borders and ordered one, my wee mum then producied a small glass box with some of dads ashes in it, she had known it needed to be done so did it to save me any further anxiety, tbh i was going to get a neighbour to do it.

Feel like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders, ill always have a bit of my dad with me, and it also means we can scatter his ashes when/if my family want to, we cancelled an original day where we were doing that at my request, so i kind of feel everyone's being held back for me.

Has anyone else done this type of thing? I know a few folk with jewellery with ashes in them, id considered that but was scared id lose it.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello there Loulouella

This must be the ultra original idea and I'm so glad it brings you comfort. I wonder if anyone else has heard of this?

Chloe

[MEW53]

Hi Loulouella,

I’ve done the same with my husband’s ashes, it was done via mail order, the family business that made the paperweights were so helpful and checked all the information was correct. My daughter has one and I have one, they look so lovely, strangely enough we had quite a few paperweights in the house from various holidays over the years so quite apt.

The weights are engraved very nicely with his name and dates on it. My husband’s ashes are in a few places, locally at the crematorium, in his father’s grave in Yorkshire where he was from and also in a special pot in my garden with some his favourite plants.

I was so pleased when I found out that paperweights could be used in this way.