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Hi 👋🏻 I’m Vicky. I’ve come over here from fertility network uk. I’m from Herefordshire in the midlands, England. I’m 40 in April. My LG is nearly 7 months old. We are at the baby led weaning stage. It’s going well. My Hubby is disabled (a T4 paraplegic). He will be 44 in March. He was our primary reason for infertility. We were trying for a baby for 4 years. We did ivf for 2 years. Our journey was tough going with 2 fresh rounds, 4 frozen rounds, using 8 embryos (1 perished at thaw). We had 2 missed miscarriages. I’d had a miscarriage at 28 too so I got testing on the nhs which revealed I have lupus anticoagulant (aps). Throughout my full term pregnancy I was closely monitored. I took blood thinning injections and aspirin. I had pelvic girdle pain and extremely swollen feet and ankles (on crutches from 17 weeks). I had an emergency c section at 38+6.. On the Tuesday of that week (6/8) I was in hospital on a drip all day after a failed sweep due to Mary’s heart rate rocketing which took all day to stabilise. The same thing happened the day she was born, again after a failed sweep. This time they couldn’t lower her rate rate. I was having regular contractions/tightenings every 10 minutes before I was rushed to theatre sometime after 9pm. Mary-Elizabeth Evalyn was born 7lb 6oz on Thursday 8/8/19 at 9:54pm. Thankfully she was fine once she was out! No one ever seemed sure what caused her heart rate to get so consistently high.. She will be 7 months old 8/3/20 and she’s now 18lbs. We have 2 embryos left in storage.

The fertility network site was invaluable to me in times of need. I’m looking for a new “safe space” to share the ups and downs of a much wanted, much loved, journey of Motherhood xx

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Hi Vicky! What a sweet photo! Her outfit is so cute too! I thought I didn't care about Leo looking cute because frankly, fashion has never been my thing. BUT.... the first time I put him in a little matching outfit my heart melted. I know what colors bring out his eyes and I get a huge feeling of joy dressing him in the morning. Everything must be comfortable though!

Thank you for sharing about your experience with infertility, pregnancy loss, your challenges in pregnancy and with the birth and your husband's condition. It sounds like your path to joy was extremely painful; emotionally and physically. You are so strong and your persistence despite everything you went through is truly inspiring! I'm certain your light will help others navigate though their darkness.

She's getting so big! I wish I had known how labor intensive this whole mom thing would be. Perhaps I would have properly trained. Haha.

I'm so happy you've joined our community and to be helping create that safe space for all of us to connect and feel supported in our journey. I know many of us have been through a lot to get here and it's nice to find a community where others understand. Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to Foodie23

It is labour intensive that’s for sure but absolutely the best job I’ve ever had! One that makes me smile from ear to ear and melts my heart, when I’m not yawning and doing my best zombie impression 😂 The only proper training is probably having done it before haha! It’s a shock to the system at times isn’t it?

I’ll do my best to help and contribute. I don’t get on here as much as I used to for obvious reasons but I’ll try to help keep this forum as active as possible 😊 xx

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Can't believe she is 7 months already 🥰🥰 adorable!

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I know! It’s going so quickly! I’m already thinking about ideas for her 1st birthday party! 🤭 xx

Hi Vicky, great to see you here. Mary is beautiful. They grow so quickly don’t they xxx

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Hi Jess. Thank you ☺️ Yes they sure do! She’s looking more and more like a little girl rather than a baby every day! xx

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Hi!!! I’ve just come back ok the fertility network for the first time in over a year. I remember seeing your posts a lot back in 2018 so clicked on your profile.

So pleased to see you have your little girl, congratulations! My son Alex was born a month before on the 10th July 19 🥰

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