Can anyone fill me in on how I begin helping my wife recover from this horrendous disease
She gave birth to our second child 14 days ago and since then has been frantic, unsleeping, incessantly talkative and delusional
We tried keeping her at home and managing the symptoms, on advice of the mental health team, who offered support that we found later to be seriously lacking- a 20 minute visit each day was far from support
I was lucky to have my mum shielding with us or I would have been alone, trying to manage a new born, daughter, an inexhaustible 2 year old and my 35 year old, erratic wife
On the first night at home she vanished into her delusions and asked me with complete sincerity if it was time for her to smother the baby!!
Needless to say I hit the panic button and after another 4 days of non stop, heart wrenching symptoms she was finally hospitalised. That was the hardest day of my life. I watched as she realised, momentarily, what was happening and saw the betrayal she felt as she did not remember agreeing to be admitted. She threatened divorce, said she hated and would never forgive me, and in the end I needed to leave as my presence was making her so distressed.
She has since reverted to the previous erratic state we had struggled with at home and I’ve tried to help with care packages of snacks, toiletries, home comforts and a stack of family photos, but still the love of my life is not improving, and seems lost.
To make matters worse we live in Northern Ireland where there is no mum and baby unit so my already distraught wife has now also been separated from our babies.
She is a wonderful mummy, and our kids are her life. I now need to know how to help her find her way back to us, we are waiting, and hopefully the wait will be a short one
I just don’t know if that’s likely as nobody had told me anything