I know my partner has been very supportive, main carer of 3 children during the psychosis, and whilst I had time away. Also since I'm on quetiapine, hes had to get up with baby in the night and get up with the older children in morning every day until the sedation wears off. He's off work currently still to help me as I have zero confidence as a mum and I'm suffering with depression and anxiety terribly. How did you cope if your partners were around constantly? I'm used to him being away 50 hours working a week and now we live in each others pockets. He's starting to become resentful that I can't wake up with the children or get up with the baby in the night which I understand but I can't do anything until I'm off quetiapine in a few days. Also he gets frustrated when I have bad days where I just want to cry and hide, because despite never having a mental health problem before, he believes you can just 'choose' to be better, no matter how many times I tell him thats not how it works, he thinks I'm 'choosing' to be ill, which is very upsetting. We now do about 50% of the childcare and housework each, but it feels that I'm just a burden to him and multiple times recently hes said it'd be better if he was a single dad rather than having me 'moping' around too. He apologises at other times and tells me he was just frustrated and didn't mean it, there's no one else we can get to help us, no one in either family wants to, they've told us that, so if he wants free time, I have to look after all 3 alone which I'm not comfortable with yet so that ends up putting me back so he comes home happy from his free time to find me a nervous sobbing wreck and starts an argument. I understand how much hes doing to support me and our children but it feels unbearable sometimes and it only makes me feel worse because he makes me feel guilty. How did you get through it?
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