I’m so over it

[Onelove86]

I am so over this. I’m so tired of feeling this way. I just want some normalcy in my life. At times I sit and think this is my new norm. It’s so exhausting to feel like this everyday. I don’t know how people have struggled and endured this for so many years. Here I am just 9 months in and it has completely taking over my life. Trying not to get on medication but at this moment it’s my last resort. If I can’t find a way to cope, I just might do something crazy. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[Jimmyluke55]

Know how you feel love every day is a struggle had enough of it all exhausted shaking mind won’t stop racing just put on sertraline on day 9 just hope this works xx

[Cat33]

Hello I'm not sure how you are suffering but I have recently found using a technique called Flooding is really changing my life I found a new video on YouTube "Panic Attacks Dr Harry Barry" I have been practicing it and it's really working I'm losing my fear of all my horrible scary feelings I really hope it might bring you some peace too Dr Claire Weekes books and You Tube videos also helped me and The Dare Response book too by Barry Mcdonagh I have found a comfort too

I'm wishing you loads and loads of luck and hope you find peace xx

[Jimmyluke55 in reply to Cat33]

Thanks love just got that book dare response hoping it will work , I’ll have a look at the other things too , been on settee all day just no energy bloods are all ok , hope you get better soon too love xxx

[nkotbjoeymc]

I Don’t Blame You.

[lovetodance2018]

Thank you for reaching out and sharing. This forum is a great comfort and support; knowing you are not alone, there are others who suffer with depression and anxiety and understand.

I have struggled for over 20 years with depression. It started after my second child was born. Depression is a chemical imbalance and most often medication helps to get the balance. Then with therapy too you can start to feel better.

I also don't like medication, but it was explained to me once by my psychiatrist that depression is a disease like diabetes. When a diabetic's sugar levels are imbalanced they need to take insulin to bring it back to balance. The same idea happens when the chemicals are off in our brain, we need an anti-depressant to help get more balanced.

There are often triggers that set me on a spiraling dark pattern. Journaling has really helped me see when I begin to spiral, what is going on at the time, and what could be the triggers. It took me time, but becoming aware really helped me not struggled for so long or so deeply.

My depression seems to be related to my hormones, so once I figured that out, I began to look into what could help, what are signs that I feel like I am heading towards a depressive episode and how can I avoid spiraling. I also found vitamin B-6 helps me.

These techniques seem to help me not spiral.

1) Tell myself depression is an illness. I am not causing it, it is real.

2) Give myself a break and say, I am not feeling well and that is OK, I will feel better so I am not going to beat myself up about struggling.

3) 557 Deep Breathing - is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting.

4) A Gratitude Journal - writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. This often also becomes a prayer and praise to God.

Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God

[Dnel82]

Hey Jimmy. You sound a lot like me. I'm going on 5 years now. I can't even believe that it's been so long myself. One thing for sure is that anxiety/panic never gets old or board. If you'd like check out my profile page and posts. You may find something you'll be able to relate to.

Honestly to only key to battling anxiety is to not battle it at all. The experts say that you need to accept it and let it be and let it go no matter how much it's kicking your ass. It doesn't sound easy but it's the only way your subconscious mind will learn that certain things that are causing your anxiety are actually not a threat. Putting up a fight and reacting to your anxiety and symptoms just makes it stronger. It's counter productive to fight your anxiety, feelings or intrusive thoughts. You're feeding it by doing these things and giving it life. That's why you're always on alert.

Once you stop fighting and struggling with it and allow the discomfort to pass and the intrusive thoughts to just be without reacting negatively towards them then soon after the mind and body calms itself naturally. It's easier said than done.

[Annie1936]

Oh my dear. If you are suffering from anxiety, get on a med that helps. I have taken Xanax for many years and it changed my life. My doctor agrees that even if I get addicted, as long as I don't take more than prescribed it is the drug for me. Also, I take Celexa at night which makes me feel like the old me. I am a great-grandmother and these two medicines have helped me live my life with laughter and happiness. Don't be afraid of drugs, if you had diabetes you would take meds for that, same thing, you are treating an illness.

[Darcy3 in reply to Annie1936]

I agree with you. I am 80 years old and have had anxiety for years. I take Xanax mid day and it calms me. I am not addicted but at 80 I am not going to worry about it. Good luck dear.

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs

[Onelove86 in reply to lovetodance2018]

I still feel the same and some days are worse. Pushing through for the sake of my kids. Thanks for checking on me, I appreciate that. Thanks for your prayers as well cause I definitely need it.

[Onelove86]

Thank you all for reaching out and giving me your insights. I will reach out to my primary care doctor.