First post + questions

Hey, I've just joined the forum. I don't really know where to start but here goes. I have started to become really self conscious; everything I do I feel like I am being judged off of others. Even things as simple as walking along a pavement I feel people are watching me and judging me. I also noticed that people seem to be watching and judging my appearance when out; like if I am sweating etc. Has anyone else experienced this?

At the same time as this, I have started to have lonely feelings; that people don't really care for me or even like me, which has started to keep me up at night and my quality of sleep has deteriorated as of recent. I often rely on alcohol and getting drunk in social situations because I feel I am too boring without it.

[hypercat54]

Hi I think you have to understand that no one is judging you. After all why would they? Are you so important to them that they want to spend their time and energy watching you? No my friend, others are much too self absorbed to give you more than a passing thought.

Are you getting any medical help?

[Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54]

I was going to say the same thing. People are so self absorbed that they aren't thinking about us.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes i too was thinking that people are too absorbed in self. We can tend to over think things & our imagination takes over all too often.

When our self esteem has taken a battering we can feel isolated and lonely feeling no one understands, no one cares but its so not true.

This forum is great when you need reasurance and people who understand you. You're not alone in this ☺️

[Dolphin14]

Situations like these really come down to us judging ourselves.

Yes, when people walk into a room people may look. That's human nature. But, there is no way they spend the rest of their night judging you.

It's our own self esteem and negative thoughts telling us there is something wrong with us.

Are you in therapy?