Why during heightened anxiety do I feel like everything bleak or going to go wrong? Is this normal

[Jmerrick22]

So to make a long story short. Lately my anxiety’s been up and I know it. I’ve been interviewing for a new job, which I’ve had four different interviews. I was offered a position and I hesitate immediately because I feel like I hate making change and decisions. It’s stressful. I don’t think some people understand how it drives anxiety sufferers crazy. I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now. We’ve known each other since 2013. He lives about an hour away and we right now see each other about once a week. Which kinda gives me some anxiety because I’d love to be with him more, but he’s already said of his anxiety and his need to take things slow which I support and agree. It just seems when I’m anxious my head tries to find something to focus on and irritate me. It bothers me. I woke up one day and was like oh my god what if I wake up one day and don’t love him anymore or what if I cheat, oh my god I can’t I love him to death.. like this drives me nuts. Why can’t I realize this is the crazy thoughts and just move on?? I really don’t know who to talk to I hate opening up to people. And at work it’s been stressful because I’m moved around a lot lately including my schedule. Can someone please tell me what I can do to decrease these worries?! Im gonna go to a therapist or counselor I talked about it with my mom and she agrees with me it’s a great idea along with my medicine.

[Agora1]

Hi Jmerrick, oh definitely therapy while on medication can be beneficial.

A pill alone will not put you back on the right track. A therapist can help you

find your way and assure you that what you are feeling is quite normal.

None of us know what the future holds. Sometimes it can be hard to trust

ourselves. That doesn't make you bad, it makes you human. Right now, go

with your heart. Life doesn't come with guarantees. However, we can't sit

home worrying about the "what ifs", that's not living. You have a lot going

on right now. Changes are one of the hardest things for anxious people to

accept. We need stability and direction in our lives with no surprises. Again,

that's not how life works. Take that step forward, believe in yourself and who

you are. Things will work out for the best if it was meant to be. xx