Dwelling on negatives

[Strongest123]

Hello everyone. Just wanted to vent a bit as usual. I notice that I’m usually dwelling on the things I don’t have instead of thinking of the so many blessings I do already have. It’s the constant worrying about losing what I have, I always think of doom, despair, instead of realizing that I am blessed and have lots to be happy and grateful for. I know it’s always been my nature to constantly worry and it sucks. Today I’ve been trying to focus on the so many Bless I have in my life. Thank you all. Samson

[Agora1]

Hi Strongest123, I know how dwelling on the Negatives in our lives can overtake our thoughts and before you know it we are in one state of panic. We forget all the good things we are blessed with. Our subconscious mind loves nothing more than to rehash the negatives even while we sleep. Is it any wonder we wake in a state of panic? This is when it might be good to journal all you are grateful for. You may be very surprised that it out numbers the negatives.

Worry is a part of our anxiety disorder. Most people can take what each day brings them with hope and gratitude. The anxious person focuses on the "What ifs" in life that may never happen. What a waste. One day at a time. I too will focus on the good things in my life and give myself a relaxing break tonight. We all need that. Let Go Samson and Breathe..

[Strongest123 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much. Your words are very helpful and supportive. Blessings. Samson

[ManUtd7]

Hi, I'm about your age and suffer the same issues. I wake up just about every night with my thoughts running through my head. I'm sure it causes a lot of the crazy dreams I have as well. I worry about everything but try to keep it in perspective as I usually make it to be a bigger issue than it really is. Definitely focus on the positive not as a distraction but the reality that things are better than it may seem right now. I know there are many others who have it much worse than myself so I'm grateful for what I do have. You have children and like to exercise so those are great motivators! I have my wife, friends & this site to help me so I focus on that when I do feel alone. Stay positive and take things as they come rather than dwell on them. Hard to do but sometimes you have no choice but to deal, so better to use the positives as your foundation. One day and one issue at a time is what I try to do. Peace to you and take care!

[Strongest123 in reply to ManUtd7]

Thank you for your response I appreciate it. Sometimes many of us do have lots of positives but we dwell so much on the negatives. I’m trying to prepare myself for the fact that my daughter is going on vacation with her mom for 14 days. My therapist says it’s a good time to focus on myself. Samson