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I recently quit a job, and am feeling very sad about it.

[LaneyDay]

I'm sorry you feel sad and don't feel bad that you are sad. Perhaps you feel sad because you feel you have failed or somehow let yourself down. At some stage of my life I used to get fired from so many jobs..one employer fired me because I looked 'tired' - at the time I had very young twins and I have been suffering from ME for a number of years and was going through a bad patch - it's very easy to be hard on ourselves..not so easy to be very very kind to ourselves which is what we need to do...please try to focus on the fact that life is hard enough as it is and not to pick up that stick and beat yourself up with it.

[20Voices in reply to LaneyDay]

You got fired for looking tired. Oh my goodness that is terrible, you could have taken them to court for wrongful dismissal.

You are right that we tend to be too hard on ourselves and there is enough people today doing that without us doing it as well. It is okay to be kind to yourself, to recognize your good qualities and to be happy for being you.

[warren218]

A bit vague, why did you quit?

[20Voices]

Hi,

I know how you feel. I quit my job when I realized I couldn't cope anymore and that it would be better for everyone if I just left. I felt guilty for leaving my colleagues in the lurch and ashamed that I had taken so much time off with illness and that I couldn't do my job.

I also ended up in a huge fight with my husband as I had been telling him for months that I was struggling but had got no help from him. It came out in the argument with him about me quitting that he was more worried about his friendship with the guy who had got me the job than the fact that I was struggling.

I know in my heart that it was right for both myself and the company to have quit the job.

It is okay to be sad about it, but you should also be secure in your reasons for leaving.

It takes a strong person to admit that they are not right for a job and to quit. Now it is time for you to rebuild your strength and health and either work to getting another job or find something that you enjoy doing to replace it. It is a tough world and we don't need to be spending time working in places that we don't like or where we are not appreciated.

Take care.

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thank u this was very kind & helpful