Extreme sadness and anxiety

[UglyDuckling546]

Over the last few months I've been feeling really down and anxious I've tried a number of things and it has helped for a bit but it's still such a hard battle even when I have people around me I feel alone, I feel like nobody understands, does anyone else feel like that?

[Matth3w]

I feel like that all the time and its so hard to keep those thoughts out of your head, mindfulness meditations help me alot, and also being a positive voice in your head and tell yourself that it isn't real it's just your fears.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Matth3w]

Yes it's so hard, I try to lean in to the anxiety and let it wash Iver me tell myself it's not real, I know it's irrational but it's just affecting everything, I never feel happy anymore

[Mandymae36]

you are not alone. I am feeling the exact same way and this is the entire reason for joining this group. I deal with sevier health anxietys

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Mandymae36]

Thank you for reaching out, we can do this

[sotired67]

Dearest Duckling546,

I saw your post and felt so moved by your extreme feeling of sadness and anxiety.

I'm living in the UK, and I can relate to how you feel.

Indeed, this week has been one of the most mentally challenging and distressing I have faced in a long time and especially on matters of depression and anxiety.

I've endured 58 yrs of both from childhood to the present day and though it doesn't get easy to manage and cope with (not in my case anyway) _ I try to remind myself that my life, though much of it is spent alone with the aforementioned feelings you wrote about, it is still precious and one day things will start to change for the better.

It's not often easy to be optimistic when and if one feels down more often than not.

But please try to believe that things can change, it just requires patience and endurance to see and feel the benefits of hope.

Please feel free to keep in touch and if I can help you, I'll be only too glad to do so.

Best wishes to you from a fellow UK citizen,

Trevor.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to sotired67]

Thank you for reaching out, I know that I am lucky in many ways and I'm trying to remind myself of that everyday, I will be fine, and then suddenly I have this overwhelming sense of doom, like my life is over and will never get betterI am trying to stay positive, please feel free to reach out for a chat

[sotired67 in reply to UglyDuckling546]

You are most welcome Duckling546.

How are you feeling so far?

I can relate to the difficulty you mentioned about feeling worried about the future.

I generally worry each day even if the day went fairly well.

I think it's due to my mindset and the tendency to worry which began in my childhood.

That maybe the reason for your anxiety, if so, we have something in common and hopefully overcome it or learn a new way coping with it each day.

I found going for brisk long walks seemed to reduce my anxiety level.

I would feel less anxious and that's such a relief to me especially because I feel nervous all day long in general.

What's the weather been like today?

It's been quite cold, so far in my part of the UK.

I've been up and out this morning and took a train journey which is normally difficult because of my level of anxiety and self-consciousness which makes it difficult for me to feel relaxed and focused on anything but myself.

Nevertheless, I did it and even though it took a bit longer to get back home because of a delay in the rail works, it was ok.

I don't know how I'll spend the rest of the day yet.

I hope that you'll enjoy your day and that the messages of support will help to keep your spirits up.

Well, take care.

Best wishes to you.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to sotired67]

I am feeling good today so far, working from home so it's been a quiet day.It's been very cold here too but sunny so that's a positive

Yes walking helps me too I got myself a walking pad so I can still get moving even if I can't go outside

For me a trigger can come from anywhere I have anxiety linked to fear of abandonment and relationship anxiety, even though I know it's not rational I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak

Thank you, I hope you have a great day too

🙂

[sotired67 in reply to UglyDuckling546]

Hi again,

I'm glad to know your mood is good today and I hope it'll last.

I understand the ''fear of abandonment and relationship anxiety''

they're things I've experienced many times.

One of my problems is worrying that I'm not good enough and I worry that I'll be pushed aside.

They're probably more common than we think but I hope that you'll begin to feel changes in that regard in due course.

Well, take care and thanks again for writing, it's good to hear from you.

Best wishes.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to sotired67]

I also feel like I'm not good enough and that there will be someone better 🙁

[Littlecook]

Hi ugly Duckling I don’t believe your nickname for one minute lol , yes I feel the same alone and noone to talk too besides my wife ,I'm not around many people and I don’t go far besides my back garden or a walk around the cemetery or the park depending if my wife is working and how much time we have ,but you know you are never alone on here everyone is so friendly and so helpful, I can honestly I've made lots of friends who support me every way possible. So please don’t feel alone because you have lots around you without knowing it .

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Littlecook]

🙂 that's how I feel at the minute!That's really nice of you to say thank you for reaching out, yes I'm relatively new to this platform but everyone has been very helpful

[Littlecook]

Please don’t put yourself down , I'm sorry you are feeling so bad have you spoken to your doctor on how you feel , try some deep breathing and relax maybe do something you like doing ,I'm always around if you want a chat .

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Littlecook]

Yes I have spoken to my doctor and they want to put me on meds which I was reluctant about but now I am thinking of trying them, my anxiety is so bad at the moment, it's affecting everything, Thank you, same goes for you if you want to talk anytime 🙂

[KrierandRosie]

Yes. Every little thing bothers me. But I have had this problem my entire life. It’s very painful. I have tried everything. You’re not ugly. You’re human. Some people are more sensitive than others. I can relate to your feelings.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to KrierandRosie]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this too, I.hope.things get better for you aswell it's so difficult isn't it?