Does anyone here know a support group for verbal/emotional domestic abuse?

[MayDay3]

I have been looking online and haven't found anything yet. I found helpline numbers but my situation is not so bad as to waste their time. I just want to know I am not alone in this and verbal abuse is also abuse and that I am not oversensitive or overreacting. It does not have to be physical abuse to cause damage.

[Dolphin14]

MayDay3

Verbal abuse is something that causes great trauma.

I'm very sorry you are going through this. It's something I know well, sadly.

Many people talk about it here. I think you will find the support on our forum.

🐬

[MayDay3 in reply to Dolphin14]

I am sorry you experienced it or know someone who did. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Thank you for responding!

[lostmysmile241529]

verbal abuse is very real from a partner, or from your own self thoughts

[MayDay3 in reply to lostmysmile241529]

Thank you for saying that! He called me crazy and manic yesterday. Also, said I don't contribute to society and said I am emotionally unavailable to him.

He also kept blaming my therapist for my OCD getting worse. I tried telling him it would have been a lot worse without therapy because I am constantly triggered by his words, attitude and behavior towards me. He thinks and says that he has been extremely patient and that no one else would have put up with me, etc....

He is very disrespectful and condescending and has yelled at me and called me names in front of my family several times. He behaves really well when we are around friends or in public. He acts like he is the most amazing attentive person ever.

When I first started opening up to one of my friends who knows him he was very surprised and found it hard to believe. Then I played him a recording of him yelling me and telling me my best is not good enough, that I contribute nothing and that I am a useless lump. My friend couldn't believe this was the same person who comes off so charming around everyone else and is so considerate and sweet to everyone.

My sister and friend think he might be a narcissist because nothing is ever his fault it is always my fault.

He keeps implying I am stupid and incompetent. I have a masters degree with a 3.6 GPA, how stupid could I possibly be?

Yet whenever he asks me my opinion on anything and I share my honest opinion about anything I feel stupid for ever answering him.

[Beavis2022]

Verbal abuse is the worst, and you definitely qualify for Domestic Violence Agencies in your area. They have group and individual counselling, it's free, and it's great. I've learned a lot and felt very supported, and more like a "normal" person.

[JustCuriousxxx]

I’m so sorry that you’re going through that. My parents did similar things to me, and so I know very well the scars it can leave. Also, use the helplines! You are not a waste of their time, and you are worth being helped. It’s hard to admit how bad it is, especially if it’s someone you once loved or do love. I hope you find the help you need. Emotional abuse is horrible and leaves you a shell of what you used to be. You are not alone!! I get the feeling of just wanting someone to reach out to you and understand you. It seems inescapable until you do, and once you do you will see just how bad what you left behind was