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I am having lucid dreams that usually include my ex. I really loved him and I found out he was cheating. It broke my heart. I sold my home and moved away. Gave up my dogs.

While I was out of state my mental health declined significantly. Hallucinations delusions depression. I blame him but I know it is not all his fault.

What can help me let this feeling go so I can quit dreaming about it

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I had a decline in mental health that included depression, hallucinations, and delusions. It was terrifying! I also would have lucid dreams, waking up in a cold sweat thinking I was still in the environment that triggered it and would wake up in a complete panic.

My situations different- it was medication induced, but I was surrounded by family who watched me decline, knew I was having full blown delusions and auditory/visual hallucinations and ignored it for 4 months until something medical happened forcing them to take me to the hospital.

I was so angry at them for so long, i kept asking myself how anyone could watch someone going through something like that and not help them. Then I started to think maybe I wasn’t worth helping.

It took me having a lot of “conversations” (mostly me yelling unintelligibly) at them about how they hurt me and telling them how angry I was and that they caused me unimaginable pain and trauma.

It helped- even though I didn’t get the reaction I wanted- they tried to avoid talking about it at all costs, yelling at me, being in denial, even through in some blame my way. They were dismissive and discounted how I felt— at first. After I got all the screaming and sobbing out and was able to communicate alittle more calmly how I felt, I still didn’t get what I wanted (them to take all responsibility and beg for my forgiveness), but I did get an “I didn’t know what to do”.

That made me realize it wasn’t really about me, people do hurtful things or don’t act because they don’t know how to handle whatever’s going on with them.

That’s my very long winded way of saying it helped me to confront the people who disappointed me and to realize that there actions, or inaction, wasn’t a reflection on me or my worth.

I hope at least some part of this was helpful… you’ll always have support here ❤️ and if you ever need someone to express your feelings about the situation with, you can always pm me :)

Have a great day!!!!!

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